Bazil Posted April 6, 2010 Posted April 6, 2010 My ex-girlfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago , during a very stressfull period in her life but had nothing to do with my actions. I was devastated and started no contact but she contacted me now and again because we play sport together once a week. I wanted her back badly and still do. Recently she became more friendly towards me and invited me back on facebook and Im and that is after I basically ignored her when ever I saw her. So Last Thursday after our weekley event we had a few to drink and actually started talking again and a bit later she was all over me and we kissed and hugged the rest of the night. She also said that she basically wanted to get back together with me. Didn't see her after that but we kept in touch via text and she went out Saturday with her friends till very late but phoned me half way during the night to come join them , but I declined . Fast forward to Monday night and we spoke again and all of a sudden she doesn't know what she wants anymore and maybe it would be better if we were just friends. That knocked me back and told her that I am going to remove myself from her life completely now and that she must think about what she wants but I have to move on with my life. I have started complete no contact from Teusday and will try and avoid her on sport night too. I think she had a few flings when we broke up , but do not know if she slept with them. The questions is this : What is she up to , playing games , unsure , taking me for a ride or just very confused. I realy want to be with her and want to know if I did the right thing by starting total no contact and telling her that Im going to remove myself from her life. She has a small baby from someone else if it makes a diffirince.Advice will be much appreciated
OOReeee Posted April 6, 2010 Posted April 6, 2010 Well I don't know about the baby thing (it is a major deal). However, she is playing games and uses you when she needs you. I understand how you fell for it for the first time... when you are in such fragile situation it's easy to jump into an opportunity even if it wasn't the best thing to do (and in my opinion it wasn't). Nevertheless, you learned from it now. It's true that you are back to square one, but now you know that going through that bs is not worth it. It's not gonna be easy, but you should remain NC, because that thing might happen again and you will get into an extremely terrible cycle that will only hurt you the next time she hurts you, dumps you or deceive you, and she will. Take the long and hard way, remain NC and start living your new life. She sucks, you are better off without.
Author Bazil Posted April 6, 2010 Author Posted April 6, 2010 Thank You for you're insight. I just really love her and find it hard to believe that someone that comes across as so sweet , innocent , loving and vulnerable can be so good at manipulating me , when I only want to be good to her. My mind just do not want to believe it. She has also been hurt a lot in the past and I am a sucker for a woman in need. Call me stupid but I still want to be with her although she has nothing to offer me and has many issues. By the way I am 30 and she is 8 years younger than me. Im just a big old softy but this is starting to hurt all over again and just wish she can decide what she wants.
OOReeee Posted April 6, 2010 Posted April 6, 2010 Trust me man I'm on the same boat. I usually date girls who have tons of problems with their family. It just happens. With the last girl, when we were together she was the sweetest thing, after being dumped I realized how immature and manipulative she is. She still tries to be friends and I still ignore her and hard as it is, it's just the right thing to do. I think that eventually you will take the next step and start dating more serious and less screwed up girls.
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