Twenty-ten Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 Guys are very visual and our insticts lie between our legs. We think with both of our heads but mostly the one below. Don't take it personal we are just admiring the beauty of women. You make it sound like men are talking dogs. If a man can hold down a job he can also refrain from thinking with his penis when he is out on a date. Animals react on their instincts, humans however rationalize them and filter them accordingly. Insecurity is my first answer, and the rest are all interchangeable and can also apply. I do think we need a little more context, was he randomly spewing out hotness facts or was the discussion already on the topic of female attractiveness? ...trying to give this sap the benefit of the doubt despite my initial reaction to the OP
Author janie423 Posted April 14, 2010 Author Posted April 14, 2010 You make it sound like men are talking dogs. If a man can hold down a job he can also refrain from thinking with his penis when he is out on a date. Animals react on their instincts, humans however rationalize them and filter them accordingly. Insecurity is my first answer, and the rest are all interchangeable and can also apply. I do think we need a little more context, was he randomly spewing out hotness facts or was the discussion already on the topic of female attractiveness? ...trying to give this sap the benefit of the doubt despite my initial reaction to the OP this convo started after dining out and back at his place on the second date . . . I noticed that he was staring intently at other women prior to this but at his house he ran off a whole litany of women he liked, wanted to date, "loved", thought were beautiful, then he also named girls he dated (we knew each other in high school) . . . and when he did that I put on the brakes even harder because it sounded like he would talk about whatever he did with me . . . and it never ended
Twenty-ten Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 What is he 12? That was offensive to 12 yr olds... Some guys I think do stuff like that to purposely turn women off. They figure if they act like a jerk then they don't have to commit to saying they are not interested. So not only is he immature, he lacks balls. Otherwise I can't imagine anyone being THAT out to lunch.
carhill Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 OP, sorry I missed you query....PUA = pick up artist (or employing such methodology). Each is different. Feeding into insecurities is one way to defeat the cognitive with emotion. You evidently don't respond to that kind of tactic, hence 'put on the brakes'. He'll move on to more pliant targets. Also, his specific methodology is one of disclaimers. Get the clear negatives out in the open at the start, then he has a fallback whenever questioned in the future. 'You know I love looking at beautiful women and talking about them. I told you'. Happy that you saw through this and have moved on
Author janie423 Posted April 14, 2010 Author Posted April 14, 2010 thanks Carhill and Twenty-ten . . . I am almost embarrassed that I allowed this guy to continue with such rude behavior for so long, and then I blamed myself somehow . . . he has been single since his divorce for 28 years so he is really really good at this game. I am so happy I never got physical with him. Trusted my gut on this one . . .
sigurpol Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 Uh, I've never brought up anything like that on a date.. even with someone who I'm with, haha. The only reason I can come up with, besides insecurity, is extra strength stupidity.
linwood Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 So let's say you are on a date with a guy and things seems to be going well, and then he starts talking about how beautiful other women are. They could be women he knew in high school, women who are his neighbors, exes, movie stars, etc. But he goes on and on talking about how hot these women are. It is a big turnoff. So why do men do it, is it done out of - insecurity - arrogance - ignorance - rudeness If a man talks like this to me I assume he is pushing me away and wants the date to end. I think most women feel this way as well. Guys, what do you think? I think you`re dating mentally challenged teenagers or the mental equivalent thereof .
Author janie423 Posted April 14, 2010 Author Posted April 14, 2010 I think you`re dating mentally challenged teenagers or the mental equivalent thereof . this is a hilarious post! In retrospect, I agree totally with this . . .
linwood Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 this is a hilarious post! In retrospect, I agree totally with this . . . Good because right after I posted it I saw how my words could be misunderstood to be a criticism of you and your choices. I didn`t mean it that way so I`m happy you understood me. None of us knows what we`re getting into on the first date and I`m also aware that most men aren`t to bright when it comes to women. I`d imagine women have to sift through a lot of garbage before they find a treasure worth keeping. You should just toss these morons aside and keep looking for someone worthwhile which is what you`re probably doing.
Author janie423 Posted April 14, 2010 Author Posted April 14, 2010 Good because right after I posted it I saw how my words could be misunderstood to be a criticism of you and your choices. I didn`t mean it that way so I`m happy you understood me. None of us knows what we`re getting into on the first date and I`m also aware that most men aren`t to bright when it comes to women. I`d imagine women have to sift through a lot of garbage before they find a treasure worth keeping. You should just toss these morons aside and keep looking for someone worthwhile which is what you`re probably doing. we're good, I didn't take offense . . . believe me I scratch my head in amazement at the poor choices I have made . . . and all any of us can do is learn from them . . .
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