BTLC23 Posted April 6, 2010 Posted April 6, 2010 I acted very insecurely even threatened my life, not seriously I just wanted to see if she cared. I am now back to myself the man she feel in love with and she is with someone else and I want her back. I am at my best but just cant stop contacting her I always think of something else I forgot. She wont talk to me or anything and I know that if she could see me now or talk to me she would be mine. I ****ing know it. I am really sick of this situation and it is nobody's fault but my own. Last summer my ex girlfriend broke up with me. There was a period of about 3 weeks where she kinda broke up with me after she saw me in pics hanging out with two of my girl friends. The day before she tried to break up with me and i begged her not to, she turned her cheek when I went to kiss her later that day. She got very upset over the pictures. Anywho we argued for a few weeks then it was final. I kinda went NC and would text her randomly and I was not myself at the time and kept driving her away. She texted me happy birthday in sept and I asked her a question about school on fb and she responded no. I texted her to go on aim and never got a response. Fast forward to mid December and I found out she is dating someone else, someone she hung out with briefly when I broke up with her the previous summer. This bothered me of course but later a previous coworker of ours hacked into her email and fb(not my choice, I was pissed as well because she thinks it was me) and he sends me screens of emails that say she had been seeing this guy since late august, maybe earlier. Thats when I got pissed. The day I found that I out I drove to her work two hours away and went to talk to her she ran away and called the cops on me. I texted her "I gave you six months, you can't give me five minutes?" Since then I sent her texts and emails about how I felt. I just don't know what to do. I love this girl so ****ing much.
learned2 love 2late Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 its guna hurt but shes shagging another guy she dnt want you you dnt need her move on, man up, we all been thru it, she aint worth it. STOP CONTACTING HER..........FOREVER DELETE HER OUT UR MIND IT WILL TAKE MONTHS MAYBE YEARS BUT FOR GOD SAKE MAN GET A GRIP OF URSELF AND MOVE ON
The Non-Student Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 Maybe in your mind you think she owes you 5 minutes, but she doesn't. She doesn't have to give you anything. Just because you're willing doesn't mean she is. Sorry it hurts so much, but the sooner you can heal, the sooner you can get over this and move on.
Author BTLC23 Posted April 19, 2010 Author Posted April 19, 2010 I know I just feel guilty about things I did and I acted so ****ty when she left I acted like such a victim. I just want her to remember me in a good way.
EthanH Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 ok, sheesh, I have read a lot of things on here, and this one, out of them all made me feel uneasy. Trust me, I know how easy it is to get caught up in someone. Emotions make things seem legitimate. But you HAVE to stop with this. The main thing I have to say is this: YOU HAVE TO STOP THINKING YOUR ACTIONS CAN CHANGE ANYTHING ... you can't do anything. Anything you do will just make her hate you. She has moved on. You just have to accept that. What does she have to do to prove to you that she has moved on? If she is married with another guy in 5 years, are you still going to be holding out hope that if she just gave you a chance, you could be good together? I can understand why you are thinking what you are thinking, I'm in a similar situation, but almost by just writing this to you, I have realised that you, (and I) just have to let go. IF she ever, for whatever reason suddenly decided she wanted to get back with you (and at the moment, I cannot see why that would be-it is sad but it is true, and she has so many negative thoughts linked up with you)... then you can decide what to do... but until then, live your life... don't stop yourself from meeting someone else, you have to do that if you want to be happy... I know it is easier said than done, but just stop thinking about her...and stop thinking it matters how she remembers you, you shouldn't care, despite the feelings you have for her, the reality is, now she is just as important to you as a random on the street. I'm sure you think that if you can get her to see you in a positive way, you might have hope of somehow starting to get back with her. You just need to accept that at the moment, what she thinks is not important, and you shouldn't waste your time thinking about that. Put yourself first.
LK30 Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 Ethan - I read what you put and thought that was an EXCELLENT piece of advice, and guys all over this forum who are going through a break up whereby they wish they could get their ex back (including me!) should read this advice. It's very direct but it's extremely true, so thank you. I am starting to think that girls get over these things much quicker than blokes do despite us men who are supposed to be the strong ones!
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