Tamia78 Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Just thought I'd give us a fun little break for a bit..... I think we need it. What if you were crusing through LS, looking at the threads, and some thread pops up that kinda sounds like your ex.....what would you do if it WAS your ex? Would you talk to them? Try to give them advice to initiate contact? Embarass them? What? I'm embarrassed to admit it, but I would probably give my ex advice to contact me. Thing is, what if he's talking about someone else? That would suck. Now I've just depressed myself. --T
Author Tamia78 Posted April 5, 2010 Author Posted April 5, 2010 Nah, I could care less what my ex is doing You're my hero! I wish I could say that and mean it right now, lol. --T
threebyfate Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 I'm a fixer and have given advice to more than one ex in the past but never to get back together, just to fix.
sao2 Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Each situation is different and this greatly depends on the nature of the relationship and why things ended. One of the huge reasons that my last relationship ended was because we were unable to understand the others' point of view on many things. I would probably stalk a bit and eventually let her know it was me. I would be hopeful that somehow through here we would be able to at least understand that the other was sincere.
Author Tamia78 Posted April 5, 2010 Author Posted April 5, 2010 One of the huge reasons that my last relationship ended was because we were unable to understand the others' point of view on many things. I would probably stalk a bit and eventually let her know it was me. I like this better, although I would rather him figure it out for himself that it was me.
LovelyDaze Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Just thought I'd give us a fun little break for a bit..... I think we need it. What if you were crusing through LS, looking at the threads, and some thread pops up that kinda sounds like your ex.....what would you do if it WAS your ex? Would you talk to them? Try to give them advice to initiate contact? Embarass them? What? I'm embarrassed to admit it, but I would probably give my ex advice to contact me. Thing is, what if he's talking about someone else? That would suck. Now I've just depressed myself. --T I'm sure that has happened at least ONCE. If I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that it was my ex (because he is talking about OUR particular breakup), I would honestly read about his thoughts but wouldn't advise. The difference between seeing your ex pour their guts on LS than seeing them type random BS on Facebook is that LS is almost akin to being in a Relationship Breakup Anonymous group. Facebook is all about showcasing how "fabulous" your life is....or how you want people to think it is. No matter what he would say on LS, it wouldn't erase my resilience to stay NC or forget what he DID that broke my heart.
HockeyMom Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Just thought I'd give us a fun little break for a bit..... I think we need it. What if you were crusing through LS, looking at the threads, and some thread pops up that kinda sounds like your ex.....what would you do if it WAS your ex? Would you talk to them? Try to give them advice to initiate contact? Embarass them? What? I'm embarrassed to admit it, but I would probably give my ex advice to contact me. Thing is, what if he's talking about someone else? That would suck. Now I've just depressed myself. --T Well, I don't think I'd EVER let him know it's me because I wouldn't want him to go back and read all my posts and see how crazily depressed and obsessed over him, I am. But... I'd love to advise him to contact his ex (assuming me) and beg for forgiveness and to tell her how much he loves her.... lol
justaguy123 Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 If I knew without any shadow of a doubt that she was on here pouring her heart out saying how much she missed me and wanted me back. I would immediately call her and try to work things out. If she talked about how much she hates what she did to me but doesn't want to get back together I would probably just ask her nicely to leave this site because I don't want to be tempted to read her posts and hope that she has the courtesy to not read mine.
Author Tamia78 Posted April 6, 2010 Author Posted April 6, 2010 Well, I don't think I'd EVER let him know it's me because I wouldn't want him to go back and read all my posts and see how crazily depressed and obsessed over him, I am. But... I'd love to advise him to contact his ex (assuming me) and beg for forgiveness and to tell her how much he loves her.... lol Actually, that's true, I don't know if I want him to know how much I obsessed and hated, and called him an idiot ( even tho he is, lol). Or......you can tell him how much of an a$$ he was and that he lost the best thing that ever happened to him. Not that I would do that, of course. Just- My ex and I were on an online forum together. I don't go there anymore, kind of an extension of NC. I'm not sure if he still goes there to check on me or not, but I'm not sure he would leave even if I asked him to.
USMCHokie Posted April 6, 2010 Posted April 6, 2010 Don't care...my ex knows I'm an open book anyway...
CaliGuy Posted April 6, 2010 Posted April 6, 2010 You're my hero! I wish I could say that and mean it right now, lol. --T The thought process is simple. Why make anyone a "priority" in your life who simply makes you an "option". What else is there?
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