OpenGL Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Last weekend I really noticed something at the bar that I have been seeing over the past year or so but haven't really given much thought until now. It seems like these days nearly every girl in the bar comes in with their arms around a guy. I'd say at least 95% of them. I don't really see groups of single girls anymore. I still see groups of guys, but groups of girls are practically non-existent. This is a major change from about 7 years ago when I first turned 21 and did the bar scene. Back then, I could literally make an entire night approaching girls and did many times with my boys. We could get there about 10pm and do nothing but approaches all night and still not run out of girls to talk to. These days? We pretty much come and leave within 10 mins because of the lack of available girls. I am wondering if people are just not even doing the bar/club scene anymore as a way to meet people and just hooking up online? The bars are still packed these days, but mostly packed with couples instead. With the popularity of myspace/facebook and online dating, it's really leaving people like me in the dust who don't "measure up" online but can make my case in person.
phineas Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 You must be in the old man bar. LOL! These days groups of women go to clubs. Or for the older crowd they go to certain bars. Basically, your in the wrong place.
Author OpenGL Posted April 5, 2010 Author Posted April 5, 2010 You must be in the old man bar. LOL! These days groups of women go to clubs. Or for the older crowd they go to certain bars. Basically, your in the wrong place. Not at all, 21-25 year old places. I'm usually one of the oldest people there at 28 (although I look like I'm 24). And groups of women do go...with a bunch of other guys.
phineas Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Not at all, 21-25 year old places. I'm usually one of the oldest people there at 28 (although I look like I'm 24). And groups of women do go...with a bunch of other guys. IF I wanted to go downtown, nothing but large groups of women in the bars. Otherwise outside the city they all flock to the one or two bars where the well to do guys hang out. Or there is the Townie bar. But unless you were drinking there before you turned legal they don't like you & you can get your ass kicked for not ordering the right type of beer. LOL!
silic0ntoad Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Not at all, 21-25 year old places. I'm usually one of the oldest people there at 28 (although I look like I'm 24). And groups of women do go...with a bunch of other guys. You're right, partially. In some bars of similar flavor I see tons of sausage. In other bars, it's an even mix. I just don't even go out to talk to girls at clubs/bars anymore. It's not an efficient way to meet people, and it's not an efficient expenditure of time.
DustySaltus Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Stay away from the local bars, most of the time they're a sausagefest. You'll find a lot of single women in lounges these days because they want the club feel without all the negative connotations that go along with it. Wine bars are nice places to meet women as well.
ADF Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 I don't doubt for a minute that many people are hooking up online. But the male/female ratio in bars and clubs has always been extremely lopsided. Men normally outnumber women by a wide margin. There are occasional exceptions, but not many. I turned 21 in 1990. That is the way it was then, too. Club regulars basically came in three varieties: 1/ single guys, alone or in groups, looking for action; 2) Couples; 3) women in groups, who were as likely as not to spit in a man's eye if he has the gall to even THINK about approaching any one of them. Club culture is NOT a happy, fun, go-lucky culture. Not at all. It is nasty, competitive and occasionally violent. It was that way when i was young, and it still is today, for the most part.
Crazy Magnet Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 As I've gotten older (now 30) my group to go out with has diversified. We don't go out in all girl or all guy groups anymore, we go out in mixed groups. Some are single, some are taken, some are couples. We just enjoy socializing with all our friends at one time. If we do have a girls only night, we typically do something a little quieter, like dinner at a nice restaurant/wine bar where we can hear each other. I'm wondering if you're just the wrong demographic for the bar thing now?
DustySaltus Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Club culture is NOT a happy, fun, go-lucky culture. Not at all. It is nasty, competitive and occasionally violent. It was that way when i was young, and it still is today, for the most part. Agree 100%, don't forget the $12-$15 drinks you need to buy if you want to approach the ladies either.
silic0ntoad Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 I hope it's all moving online! Online is free, clubs/bars cost you money just to sit in the place. Online is a joke anyway, too. Not only do people lie and bullsh*t about themselves, it's like a used car lot. Why take the reliable civic when you can have the crazy porsche? Or, keep trying to get the porsche instead of the reliable civic. IDK, I think both are a joke, TBH. Bar scene/club scene=sex scene, and that's about it. YOu go in expecting more and sh*t hits the fan.
DustySaltus Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Online is a joke anyway, too. Not only do people lie and bullsh*t about themselves, it's like a used car lot. Why take the reliable civic when you can have the crazy porsche? Or, keep trying to get the porsche instead of the reliable civic. IDK, I think both are a joke, TBH. Bar scene/club scene=sex scene, and that's about it. YOu go in expecting more and sh*t hits the fan. I don't know, I met a lot of broken down Buicks when I went through my online binge.
Engadget Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 I'm old fashioned, I can do online dating. I need to see a person face to face from the start. It does seem like more are going online which says something about our society, that people sit behind computers rather than go out and meet each other.
Author OpenGL Posted April 13, 2010 Author Posted April 13, 2010 You've got a great point. With the convenience of online dating, more and more people are going online to look for someone. Dating online isn't as stigmatic as it used to be, so more people are giving it a shot. This is probably why you have seen a difference over the last few years. Girls that aren't into partying all that much prefer to go online than to a bar or club. They can screen out a guy better online, before even talking to him. More and more success stories are coming about from online dating and we all probably know someone that is happy with someone they met online. Check out these *link removed* I'm not sure why you say you don't "measure up" online. If you know what pictures to put up and what good points to get across in your profile, I don't see why you couldn't *link removed* Always be yourself! -xo Kat reported, cya
Rorschach Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 Calm down, I'm new here as of today! On one hand, the forum go-er side of me wants to smack you. On the other hand the business man side of me thinks your a genius and should keep it up. Business man wins *thumbs up*
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