kkancho Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Here's my situation: There's this girl I like but she works as a waitress for my parents' restaurant. It's very awkward around the parents so I don't show any emotion at the restaurant when I go to eat dinner but I do drive her home on Fridays after she's done work because she lives on the way to where I'm going out to (usually an excuse just to drive her and have time to talk to her). We'll have some good talks.. she opens up a lot talking about her day, troubles, family, etc and we went out for lunch in the first week of March. After that, we would continue to talk but it seemed obvious that she only saw me as an older brother type thing (Korean culture) because she is 5 years younger than I am. I asked her out to movies and she said she was too tired, another time I asked her if she wanted to go to the zoo and she said she had plans with friends, and it seems like she has no interest in me. I'm starting to think I came out as too needy and now I'm thinking how I can fix things or get her to like me. One possibility was to just act like nothing happened and just act normal and stop pursuing her for a couple of weeks. Another possibility was to just tell her that I like her but I'm trying to fold my feelings for her because she seems uncomfortable and I don't want that and say let's just be good friends.. Very confused right now and I know there are a million other girls out there but I like this girl a lot and I think she is the one.. what can I do to win her over?
someotherguy Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Stop talking to her. Find another girl to date. Show off new date ostentatiously in the restaurant as often as possible.
DustySaltus Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 The age gap excuse is nonsense. One of my best friends is Korean and his girlfriend is 5 or 6 years younger than him. I think the simple answer here is that she just isn't into you. Take your own advice and fall of the radar for a few weeks. If you see her be cordial but limit conversation without looking like a jerk. And don't take other girls to the restaurant to make her jealous.
boogieboy Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 There is nothing you can do to make this girl attracted to you within half a year, expecially if she still sees you often in the restaurant. She will often be remindded of the needy guy that she already knows likes her. You cant tell her you like her, it ruins the mystery and challenge for her. She has to see you as desirable, and you have to parade a new girl or two in front of her to make her jealous, but dont count on this working. Its your only shot though. But she cant see you for the next few months, nothing will work if you see her all the time. Your best bet is to forget about her and find someone else. Given your lack of experience by your words, you havent been looking around too much for a gf, so she is NOT the one. Especially since she doesnt see you as the one just by looking at you.
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