ladyjane83 Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 OMG. I'm so embarrassed, but it may have actualy worked in my favour! So, there is this guy I started talking to on the internet a couple of months ago. We swapped a few emails back and forth and then he suggested we meet up, I said yes but then he never actually asked me out! I posted on here about him at the time. I emailed him with my phone number saying let me know when you fancy that meet up. He text me and we text a few times but he still never mentioned meeting up and then just stopped replying. No big deal, as we had never met up and I know this happens, but was a bit annoyed that he would just stop contact without telling me why, but anyway, I was over it. LAST NIGHT: I went out to a club with some friends and HE was in there, I recognised him from his photos. We had a bit of eye contact but no one made the effort to talk to the other...so I was thinking either he doesnt recognise me from my photos or he does but he really isnt interested. But I wanted to talk to him, at least say hello, because I was interested in him before so would be annoyed with myself if I didnt take the opportunity. So while my friends were dancing I decided to go to the bathroom, to do this I would have to walk past him. I walked past, caught his eye and gave a little nochalant smile and wave, he said "hey, you alright?" and I just carried on walking. It was good and I was happy. THEN on my way back from the bathroom I though will just walk straight past and go back to dancing with my friends...well that was the plan. Until I my stupid high heels slipped on someones spilt drink and I totally fell on the floor...like properly hit the deck! Right at his feet!!!!!!!!!! I was quickly trying to get up before he turned around but he did and saw me on the floor! I just stood up gave and embarrassed smile and walked back to my freinds quickly!! CRINGE!!!!!! BUT.... bear in mind I havent heard from him for like a week and he hadnt responded to my last text....I got a text a few minutes later from him saying "it wasn't that bad :)" Me and my friends left the club then but I text him back when I got home and we had a text convo back and foth for a while he was teasing me about falling etc and he also apologised for "being a massive flake" (his words). My friend says that yeah its nice that he has text me but that he has only done it because now he has seen me in real life and seen that i'm "hot" (her words) which isnt conveyed in my photos. She thinks thats a bad thing...but that really doesnt bother me. Am I bad for that?
Fouts Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Geez, don't take this the wrong way, but it sounds like you're both a bit socially retarded. You talk, text and exchange photos but aren't confident enough to hold a conversation when you accidentally run into each other in public. You fall down at his feet, he doesn't offer any assistance and then you both text about it later that night. Sounds like you need to get more real social interaction and lay off the 'net and texting for awhile, Jane.
tami-chan Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Sorry you fell on your tushy but it's kinda cute:)! If you didn't mind his "massive flakiness" then just enjoy getting to know him. Just keep in mind that he has that "red flag"-next time he does something like that or similar, tell him to go eat dirt.
Author ladyjane83 Posted April 5, 2010 Author Posted April 5, 2010 Geez, don't take this the wrong way, but it sounds like you're both a bit socially retarded. You talk, text and exchange photos but aren't confident enough to hold a conversation when you accidentally run into each other in public. You fall down at his feet, he doesn't offer any assistance and then you both text about it later that night. Sounds like you need to get more real social interaction and lay off the 'net and texting for awhile, Jane. I didnt really give him a chance to offer assistance..I was up and walking (running!) away without looking at him as I was so embarrassed! haha. Yeah I know we didnt talk to eachother...but I didnt want to go and initiate conversation because as far as I was aware he wasnt interested so I'm not going to put myself out there. He did say he wanted to come and say hello but he felt that my friends were "judging" him for some reason. Which to be honest we kind of were.
123BeachFan Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 How embarassing to fall right in front of him! If it were me, and a guy I knew from online spotted me in a club, and I knew he recognized me and yet he didn't come up and introduce himself, I'd decide to eliminate him as a potential date mate. I mean, saying hello is basic manners, isn't it?
Author ladyjane83 Posted April 5, 2010 Author Posted April 5, 2010 Sorry you fell on your tushy but it's kinda cute:)! If you didn't mind his "massive flakiness" then just enjoy getting to know him. Just keep in mind that he has that "red flag"-next time he does something like that or similar, tell him to go eat dirt. Yeah definitly. I think that falling workied in my favour, he said it was amusing. haha. I dont even think he would have text me if it wasnt for that! I dont know what to do now though. He sent the first and last text last night... I had said that I would have come and said hello but he had already made it clear he wasnt interested, he replied with "Its not like that at all, im just being really flakey at the moment, I dont know why. Dont take it personally although I know its hard not to" and said ok, I'll take your word for it ad he replied "you should x" I then never text back. This afternoon I updated my facebook status to a jokey comment about me falling over in the club last night and he "liked" it today. (he doesnt normally do anything on my facebook) So is it up to my to initiate contact now? And is he actually interested in getting to know me now or is he just going to flake out again? hmm.
123BeachFan Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Him not coming up to talk to you in the Club was his blunder. At this point, leave it to him to initiate conversation. You don't need to chase him to get his attention, Jane!
tami-chan Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 I would wait for him to initiate contact. From now on until proven otherwise, all you are going to do is respond ( or not).
BobSacamento Posted April 6, 2010 Posted April 6, 2010 If I were you the next time this dope contacted me I'd use the very wise words of LAdy Gaga: "I'm kinda busy"
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