celinelove Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 hi..its my first time here.. i just want to know your views about what i have done.. here goes my story.. my first and ever relationship started when i was 15..he is my first love. we have been together for 5 years and 7 months.. our relationship is not perfect,,there were a lot of lies and some other stuff.. my friends want me to go and end up the relationship cause i was physically,emotionally and mentally abuse. but i really love him and i decided to hold on to him.. just last week we were on a vacation when suddenly he got mad at me (he always get mad at me. his temper is so unpredictable.) and shouted and made fun of me in front of other people. there i lost whatever patience i had left.. i decided that i'll ask for a break when we come back after the vacation.. when we arrived home, we fought again. and i became decided to what i planned. and so i did..i send him a text message..telling him how unfair he was.. he is treating me so bad..and when i told him that i cant see that he respects me he got mad and he broke up with me.. now i dont know what to do..i dont want to loose him..i just want him to see my worth. he loves me and i can see that.but when he gets mad at me all of the love he gives me disappears. and now he's gone and i hurt him so bad..i didnt want him to be hurt..i just want him to respect me. what do i need to do..
Notsogood Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 From what you've described, I'd say you are better off without him. I know its hard after such a long relationship, but u are still young and there are plenty of good guys out there who will treat you like you deserve. It will be hard at first, but you will get through it - trust me - I came out of a 5.5 year relationship about 10 months ago, the first two months were hell and can't say i'm a-ok now but I have met many people since who have made me realise that I can love someone like i loved my ex again. Good luck.
Author celinelove Posted April 5, 2010 Author Posted April 5, 2010 hi not so good.. thank you for your reply.. but i think im not ready for that i still love him a lot.. i dont want to end things.. and i dont know what to do if that happens..our families are connected.. i grew up with him.. :( i dont know if i can handle that
Notsogood Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Do you love him enough to be treated like that for the rest of your life? When will enough be enough? You have already been in a 5.5 year relationship with this guy and you are still young. What happens if he still treats you like this in 5 years time? How about in 10 years time when you are not so young anymore? And from what I've read, I have to question whether he loves you at all as it doesn't not seem like how you would treat someone you love. Also, in regard to your families, you should make decisions like this based on your (and only yours) needs and not stay with someone because of the expectations of others. You will regret it in the end if you don't. My 2 cents. Hope all goes well.
EmperorR Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Dint mean to be harsh, but leave. If he hasn't respected you over your 5 years together what makes you think he will start? He knows he has control of you he knows no matter what you do you will still be there unless you stand up for yourself. Yeah first loves are hard giving up but your still young. Look i'm 24, was in a relationship for 3 years engaged got cheated on 5 months before I was suppose to get married found out she had a abortion behind my back I was devastated took me everyhing to move on but I did. But I did and you can to, trust me when you find someone who loves and appreciates you and won't abuse you or cheat on you, you will be saying damn I wish I left the jerk sooner.
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Author celinelove Posted April 6, 2010 Author Posted April 6, 2010 i appreciate all your replies.. wow this site an really help..well actually im aware of everything you said,even before.. i talk to him..and he said he cant believe that i think of him that way.. he said he doesnt know if he can still go on with the relationship.. because he think that what i told him are words of someone who doesnt have love anymore.. but thats not true.. i love him..i did that for him to see that his wrong..i dont know if he did..but he said we need to stop and to think about things.. well i'll just go with the flow.. hope evrythings going to be ok..
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