Whirly Girl Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 (edited) So a pretty good girl friend of mine, has in the last six months MET, dated, moved in (he with her) , and then decides 4 months into the relationship that it would be much easier if they could live at his place (he lives with his mother...lol..)in the city ( she lives in the burbs lol). She sells her HOUSE (she pretty much built this house herself from the ground up) in January , and i tell her she is crazy. Now things are going terrible for her. They argue, he runs to his mom and tells her EVERYTHING...and in turn his mom hates my friend. All three of them live in this house, and the mom now ignores my friend all together. How awkward is that??? It has gotten so bad, she has had to spend the last four days with me. She needs a break she insists. Now they're arguing has gone full throttle, through cell phone and texting, IN MY HOME ALL F**CKING WEEKEND LONG. I'm so tired of listening to it....mostly I'm mad that she allowed all this crap to happen in the first place...like who does all that? I had to straight up tell her, look you've got to back and deal with all this because now she's talking like she NEVER wants to go back there...F that. Tell me Im wrong, but one thing I do know, her staying here with me in my home while she go through some deep **** is not at all going to be good for my sanity (at the very least....As I type this she upstairs screaming at him on the phone. Listening to this **** any longer would make me snap). Just before she went to bed, I told her I loved her and she had till tomorrow noon-ish to leave. Yeah, ranting here. Sorry. Edited April 5, 2010 by Whirly Girl
LynnM28 Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Your home, your sanity, your rules. Helping a friend is wonderful, but at the expense of yourself, not a good plan. And you always have to balance helping with "not enabling" ...by forcing her to go and deal with it, perhaps you are giving her the kick in the pants she needs to figure it out and move forward to a more positive place in her life.
PhillySpecial Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Why would she sell her home??? Why wouldn't she have just kept her home to see how things were going to go? If money was an issue she could have always rented it out... Then she moves in with a man's mother??? Pardon me, I know that's your friend but she didn't even have enough sense to pick a guy with his own place... Your friend has made some very poor decisions, and it's not your job to clean up her messes. She's a big girl... Now unfortunately she's going to have to move out and rent an apartment, since she sold her house... OMG. Well hopefully she'll learn from her mistakes and never put herself in such a silly position again... No you shouldn't feel guilty at all.
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