now_what Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Please everyone send positive thoughts my way on Tuesday when I go to court to face contempt charges. My ex filed charges claiming I have "harmed" him by making mortgage payments past the due date, although all three credit reporting agencies show no history of delinquency, -0- late, paid as agreed. This just ticks me off so much, that he is wasting my time and money to go to court, when he did not even bother to bring up this issue to me. You would think that after being married for thirty years he could open his mouth to discuss any issue he might have. Nope, he just hides behind email. I don't even want to be in the same room with him. You would think court would be the last resort, instead of the first course of action, just so he would not have to speak to me. He still claims he doesn't hate me. My attorney doesn't think my ex has a case of any sort, but it is still nerve wracking. The person I married so long ago is gone, it is really easy to feel nothing toward this man now, he is someone I don't even know.
paleblue Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 good luck in court. 30 years and he cant say hey? it sounds like he is acting ridiculous. you have made me remember that the people we once knew and love are not the same people over time.
Author now_what Posted April 5, 2010 Author Posted April 5, 2010 Thanks for the support paleblue and you are so right.
TaraMaiden Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 I'd be surprised if he even turns up....what an ass.....
Author now_what Posted April 6, 2010 Author Posted April 6, 2010 Trying not to be nervous, just want to get this over with.
Author now_what Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 Update on going to court on Tuesday. Didn't even have to testify. The lawyers exchanged information beforehand and my ex's attorney saw the credit bureau reports and I think decided they didn't have a case. The lawyers just talked and the judge wondered why this even came to court. I was not in contemp. I did not fail to make any payments. I did not violate the agreement. Sooooo, he didn't know what my ex's issue was. His attorney said that he was greatly concerned that if I made payments past the due date, there would be more interest on the loans. The judge said as far as the court was concerned, my ex was not responsible for paying the loans, so he shouldn't worry himself about something that had not happened yet. His attorney also commented that his client was trying to "scare" me a bit, so I didn't get lazy about making payments and causing interest to accrue on the loans. I didn't know you could take someone to court because of "concern" We should have discussed this outside of court, because there was no reason to be in court. My lawyer pointed out that I had tried to do so, but my ex said just let the lawyer and the court take care of things. My lawyer mentioned that I was working on refinancing, and they said if they had known that, they would have stopped the court action. Noooo, he was done talking to me, he said there would be no further discussion. This whole thing was a big waste of time and money. My attorney tried to get the court to order my ex to pay my attorney fees, but the judge didn't go for it.
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