doomage Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Why is it some girls always say there are no good guys left and when one finally comes around they throw him aside like trash? Do they like being treated like slime or what? The girl i was or am seeing, i dont know at this point, Told me that the last guy she dated was a huge a hole, he would treat her badly but they were together for a couple of months, and she finally cut him loose when he screamed at her infront of her parents, and i barely have been dating her for like three weeks and i already got cut, basically. got hit with the friend line What's the deal?
ADF Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Nobody, male or female, likes to be mistreated. The trouble is the a-hole, alpha-male stereotype is a powerful image of what it means to be a man in our society. It isn't the only image, but it is a pretty dominant one. That means that some women, to some extent, find men who embody this stereotype attractive. Even of they don't like how they're treated sometimes, many women still feel, consciously or unconsciously, that this is what "real men" are supposed to be like.
Woggle Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Pretty much. Some people just do not know how to take being treated well. They start freaking out when it happens. Nobody likes being abused but for some people they seem to be addicted to it like a junkie is addicted to drugs.
carhill Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 The mandate, OP, is to learn to hone your people-picker so you avoid these incompatible people as quickly and as expediently as possible. Complaining about reality is useless. All that leads to is bitterness over time. In order to find a woman who values your romantic style, you must seek her out. Every second you waste on women who like bad treatment, alpha males, bestiality, etc is a second you'll never get back with a good woman who loves and values *you*. Invest less of yourself into each potential until you discern her compatibility. Good luck
Kamille Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 It could be that she likes being treated badly or, maybe, she just wasn't feeling like you two were very compatible. I understand you're angry and disappointed. But have you never not been into a girl before? Was there some grand scheme to it (like you only like High maintenance princesses) or was it simply that you weren't that into her? You'll likely never be able to figure out why she isn't into you enough to want to continue a relationship. Move on, plenty of fish in the sea.
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