skydiveaddict Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 I know how you feel. But you will find someone even better. my only advice would be next time not so clingy. Give her room to be herself. That means letting go once in a while
Author KewlBum Posted April 22, 2010 Author Posted April 22, 2010 Next time I will definitely be less clingy. If there is a next time anyways.... Idk, I think there's so any problems with me I don't even know where to begin. I mean, I'm a pretty shy person and I'm not really good at socializing...so finding a new girl may be hard. As well, I think I'm becoming fairly shallow. My ex was GORGEOUS. Like way out of my league kinda thing. So now when girls walk by, I don't even have an interest in a lot of them because I don't think they are as pretty. That is so horrible to say, I know. Being with my ex has gotten my standards too high I think. I just can't imagine a situation where I will find another girl that I like, that is as pretty as my ex, and who will like me back. My self-esteem is at an all-time low...
dreamer0123 Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 Next time I will definitely be less clingy. If there is a next time anyways.... Idk, I think there's so any problems with me I don't even know where to begin. I mean, I'm a pretty shy person and I'm not really good at socializing...so finding a new girl may be hard. As well, I think I'm becoming fairly shallow. My ex was GORGEOUS. Like way out of my league kinda thing. So now when girls walk by, I don't even have an interest in a lot of them because I don't think they are as pretty. That is so horrible to say, I know. Being with my ex has gotten my standards too high I think. I just can't imagine a situation where I will find another girl that I like, that is as pretty as my ex, and who will like me back. My self-esteem is at an all-time low... Hey... I know it's hard to think logically right now- I mean we are all acting out of emotions but realize this: Gorgeous or not- your ex was with you for a reason! You guys were together for a reason- so don't be so hard on yourself! Also- don't worry about timing to get over things or to start seeing other people.. it'll happen naturally when the time is right. TRUST me.. my ex and I of 3 years broke up 6 months ago- I think he's moved on already and I realized that I have no control on what he does, or who is with. His issues/problems are not mine anymore and he can deal with the breakup with which ever way he wants.. in the end its not going to change anything. The only way to start seeing a change- is for you to focus on yourself. It won't be easy.. and you will have MANY ups and downs- but you owe to YOU to try.. Trust me.. trust us all. We are all trying....
skydiveaddict Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 You will find another like her. You did it once, you can do it again. That proves she was not out of your league have faith my friend never settle
Author KewlBum Posted April 22, 2010 Author Posted April 22, 2010 Hey... I know it's hard to think logically right now- I mean we are all acting out of emotions but realize this: Gorgeous or not- your ex was with you for a reason! You guys were together for a reason- so don't be so hard on yourself! Also- don't worry about timing to get over things or to start seeing other people.. it'll happen naturally when the time is right. TRUST me.. my ex and I of 3 years broke up 6 months ago- I think he's moved on already and I realized that I have no control on what he does, or who is with. His issues/problems are not mine anymore and he can deal with the breakup with which ever way he wants.. in the end its not going to change anything. The only way to start seeing a change- is for you to focus on yourself. It won't be easy.. and you will have MANY ups and downs- but you owe to YOU to try.. Trust me.. trust us all. We are all trying.... I just want to stop being so sad and miserable all the time...
Author KewlBum Posted April 22, 2010 Author Posted April 22, 2010 You will find another like her. You did it once, you can do it again. That proves she was not out of your league have faith my friend never settle What if I just got lucky with my ex?
dreamer0123 Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 I just want to stop being so sad and miserable all the time... Me too.. I know exactly you feel. In my case, I don't want my ex back anymore- I just want to stop thinking about him and us and what happened. I don't want to be sad anymore either... But the truth is that it comes in waves... we all have our high days and our low days... so there is nothing we can do other than to ride the wave out...
Author KewlBum Posted April 22, 2010 Author Posted April 22, 2010 Me too.. I know exactly you feel. In my case, I don't want my ex back anymore- I just want to stop thinking about him and us and what happened. I don't want to be sad anymore either... But the truth is that it comes in waves... we all have our high days and our low days... so there is nothing we can do other than to ride the wave out... But in my case, I DO want my ex back. If I didn't want her back, I'm sure I would be taking this breakup much more easily. I wish I didn't want her back so badly.
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