SuperMatt Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 So I have been dating this girl since November and everything was great. The sex was awesome! We hung out and had a wonderful time together. The around January she got hurt because of too much sex. So she went to the doctors and they said to just take it easy with sex and it should heal. We did that, but every time we had sex for longer then 10 min she would start hurting. We did use lube and that didn't work. This started to become a problem because she still hasn't healed so in March I was starting to get a little frustrated and I talked with her about it. She went to the doctors the next day and she has chronic yeast infection and we cant have sex for two weeks. This made me feel a lot better because at least there was a date. But now she is saying she doesn't know if she is going to be ready for sex after 2 weeks. This is really difficult because we just started dating and its frustrating not having a sexual bond. I don't want to break things off with her just because of no sex but what should I do in this situation? (also she seems to not do oral sex that much...) We've been dating for 5 months and she considers it a monogamous relationship.
marsle85 Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 I'm sure she wants to have sex with you too. The reason why she told you she's not sure she'll be ready is because she doesn't want to get your hopes up and then bear with the disappointment. Sex is such a powerful force for men concerning relationships - she knows this. Try to understand the stress she is encountering, it hurts, not to mention the stress of knowing she's disappointing you. Stick it out. Goodluck.
lofi_tokyo Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 I guess it just comes down to how patient you are. Give it time. If she doesn't want to have sex, you can't do too much about it. One of my best friends has some sort of muscular problems down there which makes sex really painful for her. She's been dating the same guy for three years now, and she's been doing special exercises to help with the pain, and she's getting better. So waiting is paying eventually paid off for him. But for him, it was worth the wait. If you're not that interested in her anyways, maybe move on?
LoveLace Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 I'm sure she wants to have sex with you too. The reason why she told you she's not sure she'll be ready is because she doesn't want to get your hopes up and then bear with the disappointment. Sex is such a powerful force for men concerning relationships - she knows this. Try to understand the stress she is encountering, it hurts, not to mention the stress of knowing she's disappointing you. Stick it out. Goodluck. I couldn't agree more...if you get too frustrated she will likely feel more stress than she already does, and in that case, the longer you might have to wait for nookie. So it's your best bet to stay as patient as possible, which you will if she is really something special to you.
123BeachFan Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Well, now you have a proper diagnosis (the chronic yeast infection), and with her meds, it should clear up by the 2 week period. There's a good chance she was suffering from it before, and it just wasn't diagnosed. An untreated yeast infection can be very uncomfortable, to say the least. Be patient, wait out the two weeks, and you'll be a closer couple as a result.
Author SuperMatt Posted April 5, 2010 Author Posted April 5, 2010 nightsky: I do consider it monogamous, but at one point I almost felt like saying lets take a break. I am circumcised, but its a yeast infection and I understand its not her fault... I think I just needed to say something to get it off my mind. But in a new relationship I usually like to have sex as much as possible, we are very attracted to each other as well. Marsle85: Thanks! and your right I should see it from her side as well...
marsle85 Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 nightsky: I do consider it monogamous, but at one point I almost felt like saying lets take a break. I am circumcised, but its a yeast infection and I understand its not her fault... I think I just needed to say something to get it off my mind. But in a new relationship I usually like to have sex as much as possible, we are very attracted to each other as well. Marsle85: Thanks! and your right I should see it from her side as well... Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Think about it this way- once this is all cleared up sex will be GLORIOUS. You should plan a romantic night with her- and not give any inclination you're desiring sex. Cuddle with her, be sweet, seduce her. I think you might be surprised how much not putting the pressure on - will make her want to please you. Create the desire for you. You sound like you're in it for the right reasons, and you like her. Show her. This will pay off for you DOUBLEFOLD.
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