newkid34 Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 Is now potentially back but i am in a relationship of 2 1/2 years. What do i do. i talked to her about all the feelings i had before and why i had let her get away from me but i feel like i still have feelings for her. I want to meet her to confirm or not but quite frankly im afraid of what i will have to do if i do still have feelings for her. Any Advice?
Kamille Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 Once I was talking about an ex an how much I loved him - but that I had to end things. A (very happily married) friend then replied: if you really loved him, you wouldn't ever have let him get away. I feel like the same thing applies here: whatever your reasons for letting her get away were, if she was the one, you would have never let her get away. I say leave well enough alone and ignore the ex.
USMCHokie Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 I feel like the same thing applies here: whatever your reasons for letting her get away were, if she was the one, you would have never let her get away. I say leave well enough alone and ignore the ex. And likewise, if you were her "one," she would have never let you get away.
Author newkid34 Posted April 4, 2010 Author Posted April 4, 2010 I had just broken up with a girl and was hoping to get back with her, thats why i didn't go anywhere with this one.
Kamille Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 I had just broken up with a girl and was hoping to get back with her, thats why i didn't go anywhere with this one. The advice still holds: if she was the one for you, you would have gotten somewhere with her. Is there anything lacking in your current relationship that is making you reminisce about this ex?
Author newkid34 Posted April 4, 2010 Author Posted April 4, 2010 (edited) It does have it's weak points but idk if its anything out of the ordinary of what a normal couple might encounter. outside of her whole family speaking a language i don't understand and who knows what will happen if we have kids and i can't speak it. Also an edit: I never dated this other girl, we went out a few times but it was never official. Edited April 5, 2010 by newkid34
CaliGuy Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Is now potentially back but i am in a relationship of 2 1/2 years. What do i do. i talked to her about all the feelings i had before and why i had let her get away from me but i feel like i still have feelings for her. I want to meet her to confirm or not but quite frankly im afraid of what i will have to do if i do still have feelings for her. Any Advice? Yes, stop making bad decisions like this. If you love someone, you don't let them get away. If you let them get away, then let them be to find someone else. That's all you have to do.
DustySaltus Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 I don't know if I believe in "the one" anymore but I do believe in second chances. However, you are WITH someone for over 2 years who has obviously developed their own set of feelings for you. Why would you be willing to throw all of this away on a CHANCE to work things out with the ex? I mean how much do you really care about your current relationship? Shouldn't you be honest with your current GF about your feelings for your ex or is it that at the end of the day you don't want to be left by yourself? What makes you think that your EX was the one? How do you feel about your current GF?
stace79 Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 It does have it's weak points but idk if its anything out of the ordinary of what a normal couple might encounter. outside of her whole family speaking a language i don't understand and who knows what will happen if we have kids and i can't speak it. Also an edit: I never dated this other girl, we went out a few times but it was never official. You never even dated the other girl, but you'd consider leaving the girl you've been with for 2.5 years for her? That is ludicrous. You need to break it off with your current gf b/c it doesn't sound like you love her, but a girl you never even actually dated? Give me a break.
DustySaltus Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Sorry, I missed the part about NEVER BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP with the other girl. I'd like to understand your thought process here. This doesn't make any sense though.
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