sara82 Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 I've just started talking/ getting to know a guy im really interested in. We talk/ text all the time. How frequently should I expect to hear from him? everyday? every couple of days? or just I just enjoy him, and see what life brings? I've been down the path of expecting too much too soon, rushing to start a relationship and having the entire thing blow up in my face. I def. don't want that to happen with this guy.
SuperMatt Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 Well for me, I use to jump into relationships that got serious really fast, but what I come to learn over the years of dating is to just go slow. I have that mind set of being single even if I am with someone. I just go about my daily life as if nothing has changed, when I start hanging out with them I usually just see it as getting to know each other. How long have you been seeing him or talking with him? (that would help a little bit)
marsle85 Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 Slow down, don't "expect" anything. Don't expect a call or a text... so when you get one- it's a nice surprise. Also, let him chase you. Contact him in RESPONSE to his pursuits - don't ask him out or initiate a lot of contact with him. In reference to Supermatt's comment - usually this is the case. Men tend to rush intimacy (physical especially) try to slow it down so that you have the potential to enjoy this long term, and not a fling.
dazzle22 Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 It is extremely tempting to move too fast at the beginning of relationships. Guys in particular often like to push and then the girl lets things speed up, then the guy 'scares himself off' because he got in deeper than he wanted to, too fast, and then he backs off, and there you are holding the bag and wondering where he went and what happened. I have come to believe it is the woman's job to slow the pace of the relationship down, if you want it to go the distance. It really is the best, because you really don't know him, he may be concealing things that are deal breakers to you. You wouldn't dive headfirst into a stream without checking it out first, right? Take your time, suss out this stream, wade slowly in, make sure there are no sharp rocks, or biting fish:eek: under the surface before you really take the plunge.
SuperMatt Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 we've only been talking a few weeks Yeah just keep it slow I am sure he likes you as well . Its true about Marsle85 comment the chase is good in two ways: 1. It shows your not needy 2. You have your own life and your own goals which is awesome! Plus your still single and when your ready to take the next step you will. Go out have a blast with your friends even date other people. This will help get your mind off of it and your not putting all your marbles into one basket. Thats how I go about it. GOOD LUCK
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