shadowsfall Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 I recently started seeing a girl in her early 20s who admitted to me that she's very inexperienced in the dating world. She's never been in a relationship or even randomly hooked up with anyone. She doesn't like guys who pressure her into hooking up or who move too quickly. I'm also under the impression that she may have never even kissed anyone before. Last night was our 2nd date and it went extremely well. We had a lengthy conversation about relationships and how if she met the right person that she would be up for dating them at this point in time, but that they would have to go at her pace. I really regret not asking her at that point her feelings toward dating me. Obviously she has an interest in me somewhat if she's willing to stay out all night hanging out/talking with me. I'm also disappointed (but not surprised) when we said our goodbyes last night. I ended up giving her a long hug out of fear that a kiss would scare her away. I really don't know how to make a move on this girl without scaring her away? I understand her situation might require her to be friends with someone before she considers dating them but If this isn't the case I don't want to be filed away in the friend zone. How do I show a girl like this that i'm interested in her without coming across as being too forceful or pressuring?
aerogurl87 Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 When I was a virgin I didn't move at what you call a "virgin's pace", lol. Sounds like she may be a bit of a prude to me. I mean what's the harm in a kiss? In this one instance I'd say to definitely keep your options open and maybe go on a few dates with some other women as well.
Author shadowsfall Posted April 6, 2010 Author Posted April 6, 2010 So I recently found out from my sister in law that this girl is really into me. Seriously, what a huge relief! Apparently she drove an hour away just to talk with her about me. It's great to know that I no longer need to waste my energy attempting to read her and instead can focus more on making a move now. And even though I really like this girl, I'm still taking everyone's advice and dating others to keep my options as open as possible. Thanks!
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