bluz73 Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 Im pretty much happy now and enjoying my life and could careless bout him. I rarely ever have a loving caring thought about him Its his new girlfriend that I constantly think about that drives me crazy.. He met her 1 month prior our breakup and chose her a freaking 18 year old (he is 31) instead of trying to continue what we had. She quicky moved from another state 2 months later to move in with him at his folks place cause she pretty much lost all her friends and family in her state due to the age gap creepo factor..Has no car..so I frankly think she needs a home and a car and he needs a roomate and free easy sex. If its true love to last that is a laugh, but who knows..I am just pissed off cause they are still together. I dont want to feel this way but I dont know why I do. My only reasoning behind an 18 yr old wanting a 31 jobless drug addicted mamas boy is she has nowhere else to go. For me wanting that too was I was living in the fantasy he was goin to change and he didnt obviously. She knows in the first 3 months I tried to get him back and its like her hanging on to him to spite me cause she knows if she disappeared he would be running back. I dont want him back I just dont want HER with him. Anyone else feel this way?????? I dont know how to control this lingering feeling..i want it to go away!
nobmagnet Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 Yes darling!!!!!!! however reflect apon what you have said................ drug addict mummies boy:o no job:mad: WTF?????????????????????????? ok i will start by saying I get the fact you are unhappy and he might be happy..we all want them to feel our pain (an electrode to the testies romotley would be great!) However. your annoyance and hatred is directed at the wrong one. She....well you should feel sorry for her being with a loser. deep breath my love and i would like to set you some homework if I may?? Make a list of all the reasons you dont/shouldnt be with him. Do it when you are angry too. IE farting, not washing enough, crap sex, ect i will almost primice you will giggle at the end of it because there is an element of.........AND ANOTHER THING when we all argue:D focus on the sh*t bits Nobby xx:love:
nobmagnet Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 forgot to say. to my knowlege he is still with her. However he is back from spending thier first full time as a couple early! hahah the remote testies shock might just have worked!!!!!!! muhahahah nobbyxx
USMCHokie Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 I don't know. But if she is, then I feel sorry for her...
Tamia78 Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 I know it doesn't mean anything now, but it sounds like he's not ready to grow up, either. As you say, it just sounds like he likes the free sex, and she's obviously got nothing going for herself. Both sound like losers to me, and you are so much better than that! Let them go down together, in my opinion. I mean, 31 and living at mom's? Um......no. You don't need that. And she too young to know any better, so.......I can so see this going somewhere. (yeah, that's definitely sarcasm). They'll get tired of each other eventually, most of those kinda relationships do. Still, it sux that you have to deal with these people. --T
Author bluz73 Posted April 4, 2010 Author Posted April 4, 2010 I know it doesn't mean anything now, but it sounds like he's not ready to grow up, either. As you say, it just sounds like he likes the free sex, and she's obviously got nothing going for herself. Both sound like losers to me, and you are so much better than that! Let them go down together, in my opinion. I mean, 31 and living at mom's? Um......no. You don't need that. And she too young to know any better, so.......I can so see this going somewhere. (yeah, that's definitely sarcasm). They'll get tired of each other eventually, most of those kinda relationships do. Still, it sux that you have to deal with these people. --T thanks I agree, I guess my hope was that it wouldnt last a few months and then he would come back to me saying he was sorry and I could get the ultimate revenge by rejecting him, now its going on 7 months and she lives with him and has nowhere to go (family/friends) no car of her own..so i am just assuming its a convience for both of them. I just hate that she thinks she won him and I lost and if I could shake that I'd be completely okay. Im not ready for dating but I am enjoying my life again. I dont want him back i am being honest i hate seeing him happy
Exit Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 My ex had a new BF pretty quickly after she dumped me, I just recently found out that she's single again. It created all kinds of emotions but in the end nothing really changes.
HockeyMom Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Mine is and they live together now. I am sad everyday. I'm jeolous of the life she gets to have with him. I feel like it should be me having a big happy family with him. They moved into a huge beautiful house, kids, pets, etc... I also work with them. I hate my life!
hiscamilla Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 I know how hard it is but please try to put the energy you are using by feeling so sad into making your life better FOR YOU ! Remember - success is the best revenge. And it is possible to have a good life as a single. 10 years down the line, my kids and I have a great relationship, my business is growing by the year and I've just had a fabulous 50th birthday surrounded by people who really know and value me for who I am. I was so sad when he left us for a friend of our family, he also fired me from our family business so I was poor and unemployed, the kids were young , vulnerable and devastated - things are a bit different now... you can make something great of your new life, you really can. Wishing you all the best.
cdt76 Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 Mine is and they live together now. I am sad everyday. I'm jeolous of the life she gets to have with him. I feel like it should be me having a big happy family with him. They moved into a huge beautiful house, kids, pets, etc... I also work with them. I hate my life! I am so sorry for you. I know what it's like. I'm in a similar situation. My heart and prayers are with you.
Odyssey Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 OP, sound like desperation and immaturity on her part. But i know the feeling. its weird. it shouldn't matter. jealousy is all it is, especially when you're unhappy. Anyways, last i'd heard about my ex (several months ago) - she's single. The grass is greener didn't work out for her. I have no idea what she's up to now. I do my best not to keep a tab on her life, when she gave up on mine.
just1guy Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 I haven't checked since I found out, but I'm sure she is with the guy that she jumped into a relationship right after we broke up. Am I suprised? Not really. They are still in the honeymoon phase, since it's only been a few months. But based on her track record, I'd be shocked that this lasts. The pathetic thing is that I, too, am jealous that the bastard is with her. Eventhough I know I shouldn't care because it was her choice, I still miss her quite a bit.
EmperorR Posted April 6, 2010 Posted April 6, 2010 ex fiance? dont know don't care ex bf? she left me for her abusive ex bf, but they broke up and now shes pregnant with twins for some guy who works at the grocery store and lives with his mommy. soon to be ex? going back to her cheating std having ex bf, should last a few weeks or whatever again i dont care.
Author bluz73 Posted April 6, 2010 Author Posted April 6, 2010 I do my best not to keep a tab on her life, when she gave up on mine. I cant keep tabs on him he has no facebook or myspace but his new teeny bopper does and she is so flaunting of their life..it tortures me. ugh but good advice thanks
Eurydice Posted April 6, 2010 Posted April 6, 2010 Let them go. It is not healthy to keep checking in when you could be putting that energy into something positive and healthy for yourself. Take up a new hobby. Can you socialize in your circle? If not, try expanding your information!
Tamia78 Posted April 6, 2010 Posted April 6, 2010 I just hate that she thinks she won him and I lost and if I could shake that I'd be completely okay. Im not ready for dating but I am enjoying my life again. I dont want him back i am being honest i hate seeing him happy I completely understand this, but how do you know he's happy? On the surface (and her damn FB page) of course everything is going to look good. I'm pretty sure my ex has a new gf, and she's probably moved in with him, and probably pregnant, and they are going to get married (not for sure, but I know him)--and we've only been broken up for 6 weeks. It seems like you are putting things in your head that may not be there. You assume she thinks she won him, but in reality, you don't know what she's thinking, nor should you care. Like I said before, try not to let it bother you. You don't want him back, and you are enjoying your life. Someone soooo much better for you will come along, and by that time that girl's FB page will start saying something totally different. From the looks of your latest thread, sounds like things are already turning.... --T
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