canyoubelievethis Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 my wife cheated on me, a one night stand a few years ago while away at a conference. she told me ten months ago and I still have issues on how she feels about the person, or type of person who did this. we were not doing well for a while, so in some way I do understand why she cheated. My question to all of you is about this guy, what he did and when he did it. This man had made it clear a year before it happened that he was hot for my wife, to someone else she works with. when this happened, it was just three months after this guy and his wife had their first child??????????? what type of person does this? this is supposed to be the happiest time of your life, right? My wife does not see the bad in this guy, for whatever reason, I have my opinion on why. What I ask of all of you is: What do you think of a guy who just had a baby, his wife is at home caring for his child and he is drunk getting naked with my wife? what kind of character or type of person would you label this man? thanks for your opinion
Fallen Angel Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 my wife cheated on me, a one night stand a few years ago while away at a conference. she told me ten months ago and I still have issues on how she feels about the person, or type of person who did this. we were not doing well for a while, so in some way I do understand why she cheated. My question to all of you is about this guy, what he did and when he did it. This man had made it clear a year before it happened that he was hot for my wife, to someone else she works with. when this happened, it was just three months after this guy and his wife had their first child??????????? what type of person does this? this is supposed to be the happiest time of your life, right? My wife does not see the bad in this guy, for whatever reason, I have my opinion on why. What I ask of all of you is: What do you think of a guy who just had a baby, his wife is at home caring for his child and he is drunk getting naked with my wife? what kind of character or type of person would you label this man? thanks for your opinion Confused.
Hazyhead Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 Selfish. My xAP did that exact thing... and more. (Please know that I'm not saying this in any kind of bragging way, just pointing out that it happens more than we realise I think. Unfortunately.)
bentnotbroken Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 A giant steaming turd with the morals of a termite.
OWoman Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 my wife cheated on me, a one night stand a few years ago while away at a conference. she told me ten months ago and I still have issues on how she feels about the person, or type of person who did this. we were not doing well for a while, so in some way I do understand why she cheated. My question to all of you is about this guy, what he did and when he did it. This man had made it clear a year before it happened that he was hot for my wife, to someone else she works with. when this happened, it was just three months after this guy and his wife had their first child??????????? what type of person does this? this is supposed to be the happiest time of your life, right? My wife does not see the bad in this guy, for whatever reason, I have my opinion on why. What I ask of all of you is: What do you think of a guy who just had a baby, his wife is at home caring for his child and he is drunk getting naked with my wife? what kind of character or type of person would you label this man? thanks for your opinion sexually frustrated, I'd guess. And what kind of woman pounces on a guy with a wife and three month old baby at home? horny, possibly sexually frustrated, I'd guess. And what kind of guy "understands", and goes about his merry way, all the while obsessing about someone who was involved in something that happened YEARS ago, about which he's known for almost a year? Why the big focus on the other dude? He could have been anybody. He could have been an escort your W ordered for the night, or some casual she picked up in a pub, if it was just a ONS. Your W chose to have a ONS. Who or what she chose only she can answer. Seeking views here won't solve what made her go for a guy with an infant at home - that answer you'll need to get from her.
Author canyoubelievethis Posted April 4, 2010 Author Posted April 4, 2010 i agree, what kind of guy does this and what kind of woman does this? and the only reason i ask the question is that everytime i say something about him she says "he might be a good man who did something wrong" and he wasnt just anyone, he works with her, he has been to my house on a few occasions, he knew we were having trouble and he lives 5 miles from me. what kind of ass does this knowing we live nearby. i'll answer that, a low life, cheap thrill, married cheating ass. not that bright
Lizzie60 Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 You'd be surprised at how many men start As..when their W is pregnant or soon after they have a baby... it's not that uncommon.. What kind of men do that.. they are no different than the man or woman who already has kids/partner at home..
Ima Texan Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 What kind of man does this? I'm not sure, I don't know this man. BUT, I don't think this man had a gun to your wifes head, no, not at all. This was a man that was 50% involved in this one night stand, IF that is what it indeed was. YOUR WIFE had choices that she made. YOUR WIFE had a mouth, that whispered,"its OK, or f*ck me" or whatever she said.. You get the picture. Did this guy make a bad choice too? Absolutely! But I suggest you put your focus where it should be, on YOUR WIFE
nobmagnet Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 can you beleive this, maybe it would be good for you to message on coping? i am like you.......bewildered and would want answers. but i recon it might be good to post a thread on coping for yourself to see the support you will get:love: then maybe ask on here. the OW/OM are good people but maybe notwhat you need right now. see you there????? Nobby:love:
her_halo_slipped Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 my wife cheated on me, a one night stand a few years ago while away at a conference. she told me ten months ago and I still have issues on how she feels about the person, or type of person who did this. we were not doing well for a while, so in some way I do understand why she cheated. My question to all of you is about this guy, what he did and when he did it. This man had made it clear a year before it happened that he was hot for my wife, to someone else she works with. when this happened, it was just three months after this guy and his wife had their first child??????????? what type of person does this? this is supposed to be the happiest time of your life, right? My wife does not see the bad in this guy, for whatever reason, I have my opinion on why. What I ask of all of you is: What do you think of a guy who just had a baby, his wife is at home caring for his child and he is drunk getting naked with my wife? what kind of character or type of person would you label this man? thanks for your opinion More to the point...what type of person is your wife? I am guessing she remembered she was married to you and the vows she made. I am guessing she knew the guy was married and had just had a baby. I am also guessing she" didn't just happen to fall on his sword?". You seem focussed on the type of person this man is. Why? Will it make you feel better to know that he is a low despicable, predator of a man? What if someone said he was a pleasant person with a happy go lucky, opportunistic attitude? Would it change your perception of him? He is whatever you want to think of him and I suspect you will see him in the light you need to see him in in order for you to deal with your situation. And that is okay. Just don't forget that in a consensual relationship it does take two to tango. What type of person is your wife?
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