EasyHeart Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 A woman meets a guy on a blind date. She has fun and decides he would be fun to hang out with, but there was no chemistry and she could not see herself ever sleeping with him. But he is very interested in her, and he asks her out again. Why would she keep dating him? (Yes, this a semi-dupe thread, but I've realized most people here only read titles, and don't actually read any of the posts).
ADF Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 The only reason I can think of is that she feels stuck. She isn't interested in the man romatically, but recognizes he is a good person and doesn't want to hurt him. So instead, she agrees to another date in hopes she'll be able to see him in a new light. It's not likely to happen, but still.
melodymatters Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 You're awfully concerned about your " friends" situation ?!? How do you know what this woman is thinking about your "friend" anyway ?
norajane Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 Because women have been known to change their minds about a guy. If she thinks he'd be fun to hang out with, then hanging out with him may reveal more to him than she first saw and that can turn into chemistry. It does happen.
EYECANDY000 Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 I would just view it as friends hanging out, not exactly her dating him. If he is intrested but she isnt then its up to her to let him know her intentions. let him know shes not looking for anything serious and just wants to be friends
Jersey Shortie Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 She likes the attention and validation and maybe hasn't gotten any for a long time? For the record, there are stereotypically unattractive men that I have been wildly attracted to. And there have been stereotypically attractive men that have turned me off. Of coures, there have been ugly men that I didn't like too.
Cinderella7 Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 Two of my best friends, who are very attractive girls, are both currently in very happy relationships with guys they weren't initially attracted to when they met, or even after the first few dates. These guys aren't ugly by any means, but they have both dated much better looking guys. Sometimes, chemistry builds and attraction grows as you get to know someone, particularly for women.
LoveLace Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 Obviously it should be discussed and made clear from them both on what it is they want...dating or friends..it's true that she could be giving it another chance to feel more chemistry, but after that point it's not fair to string the guy along while she "makes up her mind"...so again, the two of them should just get it out there before hanging out more.
zebracolors Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 Isn't this subjective really? I know you gave the criteria that its a blind date. I would agree that there would be women who are kind of superficial that they would not date a man they didn't find attractive a 2nd time, maybe so as to not lead the guy on or anything. I guess I would hope there is some chemistry but if there is not I would be honest about it. And while every woman's definition of attractive is different, we love it best when there is an emotional connection as well.
Author EasyHeart Posted April 4, 2010 Author Posted April 4, 2010 She likes the attention and validation and maybe hasn't gotten any for a long time? For the record, there are stereotypically unattractive men that I have been wildly attracted to. And there have been stereotypically attractive men that have turned me off. Of coures, there have been ugly men that I didn't like too. This may make the most sense. She's hasn't had much luck dating in the past 6 months or so, and I know she's been looking pretty hard, so it might just be that she likes the attention. Or something is better than nothing. I realize that attraction is subjective. But the "unattractive" comes from her -- I haven't seen the guy. She said that he was fun to hang out with but she felt no chemistry and nothing sexual would ever happen between them.
Jersey Shortie Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 How old is she? Also, even if this is the case, she shouldn't lead him on. Sometimes, if a man is really interested in you, you might give him a shot because he makes you feel attractive.
Author EasyHeart Posted April 5, 2010 Author Posted April 5, 2010 How old is she? Also, even if this is the case, she shouldn't lead him on. Sometimes, if a man is really interested in you, you might give him a shot because he makes you feel attractive. She's 35, single mom.
troggleputty Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 She's 35, single mom. Like I said...she's looking for a husband. As a 35 yr old single mom, she's got to be practical.
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