FeelingLonely98 Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 Back ground for those who don't know my story --> 9 months since D-Day, 8 & 1/2 months since she moved out, 7 months since I filed for D, been Divorced for 2 months now. Her 20 yr old son (step-son) is living with me - ok with me and is what he wants. So, yesterday my son and I are in the front yard taking care of the lawn and doing yardwork. Was about to head to the back yard to continue. So a little black compact pulls along side the road and I see my step-son in the passenger seat. Figure someone is just dropping him off. I turned to walk into the backyard. About a minute later I realize that it might have been my ex. I ask him later how did you gt home from work. Says Mom gave him a ride. I didn't even recognize her. She probably thinks I was avoiding her. I hadn't seen her since the divorce day in the court a few months ago. I suppose this is good to not even recognize her?
nobmagnet Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 Yeah its good you didnt reconise her. But only if it was because she has piled on the weight and aged 30 years!! Be awful if it was because she looked good Nobby xx
carhill Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 To me, that means you've moved on. When you can interact with her (necessary because of child) and her new love interest/H without feeling anything, that will be your true indicator of moving on. Some people reinvent themselves after a D, like a whole new person and life, as a way to leave the past behind. Not uncommon for appearance to change markedly. The only constant in life, other than death, is change
2.50 a gallon Posted April 5, 2010 Posted April 5, 2010 FL98 It sounds great to me. What else is going on? Your friend Gallon
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted April 5, 2010 Author Posted April 5, 2010 How much do you think about her now? Rarely! But only if it was because she has piled on the weight and aged 30 years!! Be awful if it was because she looked good. Thinking back - It didn't seem that her appearance had changed much - at least as much as one can see of someone sitting in a car about 30-40 feet away. As far as the weight is concerned ... at the D hearing in Feb. she looked as heavy as I had ever seen her. Some people reinvent themselves after a D, like a whole new person and life, as a way to leave the past behind. Not uncommon for appearance to change markedly. The only constant in life, other than death, is change If anything I am the one who has changed their appearance. Lost 30 pounds or so, cut my hair shorter than it's been since grade school, work out regularly, ... She hasn't except for putting on a few pounds.
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted April 5, 2010 Author Posted April 5, 2010 FL98 It sounds great to me. What else is going on? Your friend Gallon Thanks Gallon - My life is good. Some family crises to deal with lately! (These had zero to do with the XW.) Relationship with the new GF is going well. Work has me almost drowning though, but I guess that's good to have so much work - especially these days. PEACE!
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