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So, this morning I posted a really freaked out thread on this in the breaking up forum. At that time I just read it and was really emotional.

I guess the break up forum was not the right place. This is more like it. I just want to write down that I think that if I ever had a chance of a reconciliation between him and me, I missed it. This is the e-mail my ex send me last night (2:13 am).

 

Hey Berendine,

 

The reason why I didn't send anything or didn't let me hear from me is because I wasn't over you. It did too much pain, and at the time I thought the only best option was to break up, because the relationship didn't work for us (or at least for me). I didn't want to tell you at that time because I feared you'd try to talk me out of it and would try to make things better. I think if you'd done that I could not have said no. The first time (with the break up) already shred my heart into pieces.

 

If I've made the right decision (for as long something like this actually can be a right or wrong one)? I think so, but at that time it really didn't matter. Even if it was the wrong descision I didn't want to see it at that time, I would have hold on to the thought that it WAS a right descision to be sure it would not just be me who missed a warm body with a nice personality.

 

I send you this e-mail right now, because I can live my life a bit normal again with knowing that I've said no to you. If I read the e-mail you've send me I can only think "She tries to convince herself that she agrees with the break up but in her heart she knows/feels that she doesn't agree with it". Maybe it's just a thought to boost my own ego. I hope I'm wrong on this one, because then this e-mail will be less hard on you.

 

I'm happy with the peace I've got. Not allways trying to solve the fights, the communication that wouldn't work and not that immense pain because I didn't know how to solve all the problems. These things are the real causes that suppressed my love and then just took it away.

 

Have a beautifull life and maybe I'll see you one day.

 

With kind regards,

Robert.

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I hope to get some thoughts from people on this e-mail. Otherwise I just thank you for reading this.

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Doesn't sound like he wants a second chance. He seems to just want to know that you don't hate him for breaking up with you and assuage any guilt he may have about it.

 

You should move on and block him because he is not trying to come back. Do not respond to that email since it is not necessary.

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