Chubbi Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 (edited) What is this about? Okay, I'm a 20 year old and so is the guy, just saying. Anyway, over spring break, this guy repeatedly tells other people like he wants to make out with me, he loves how I look when I get out of the shower, he asks me on a alone, city walk with him, he gets nervous when he speaks to me, he told me I was his least favorite and that he definitely would not miss me when I left back for spring break because I am always clogging toilets, never doing any work (basically the opposite) He asked another girl if she knew I was seeing someone, says hello to me everytime I enter the room etc The funny part is is that the feelings are mutual. I'm down if he is. Like I said when someone suggested communal showers, and the guy was like Okay, you're coming Chubbi? I looked at him and said, "I'm in!" (I was joking, I think, but with a little more wine...) But what's crazy is he apparently has a g/f, and I think he told her he loved her one day though I'm not sure who he was on the phone with. That hurt a lot. So I would have been more forward if that wouldn't make me the other woman, you know? I asked some of my guy friends, and what is funny is that none of them thought the guy was good enough for me. One guy was like, "You're interested in him." And I nodded. And then he said, "You're (emphasis) interested in him??" I just nodded again. Whatever it is... it sucks, since I am really interested. What is this guy thinking? Does he think I'm easy and could be a quickie? Should I think college relationships aren't that big of a deal and just push myself into that circle, removing the other girl? Is he smooth-talking? What's your reading on this? I will see him more so I'm wondering what to do. I don't flirt; I just get straight to it so I'm wondering what to do. Just wait?? Maybe I'm making a big deal out of nothing? Edited April 4, 2010 by Chubbi
harmfulsweetz Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 What is this about? Okay, I'm a 20 year old and so is the guy, just saying. Anyway, over spring break, this guy repeatedly tells other people like he wants to make out with me, he loves how I look when I get out of the shower, he asks me on a alone, city walk with him, he gets nervous when he speaks to me, he told me I was his least favorite and that he definitely would not miss me when I left back for spring break because I am always clogging toilets, never doing any work (basically the opposite) He asked another girl if she knew I was seeing someone, says hello to me everytime I enter the room etc The funny part is is that the feelings are mutual. I'm down if he is. Like I said when someone suggested communal showers, and the guy was like Okay, you're coming Chubbi? I looked at him and said, "I'm in!" (I was joking, I think, but with a little more wine...) But what's crazy is he apparently has a g/f, and I think he told her he loved her one day though I'm not sure who he was on the phone with. That hurt a lot. So I would have been more forward if that wouldn't make me the other woman, you know? I asked some of my guy friends, and what is funny is that none of them thought the guy was good enough for me. One guy was like, "You're interested in him." And I nodded. And then he said, "You're (emphasis) interested in him??" I just nodded again. Whatever it is... it sucks, since I am really interested. What is this guy thinking? Does he think I'm easy and could be a quickie? Should I think college relationships aren't that big of a deal and just push myself into that circle, removing the other girl? Is he smooth-talking? What's your reading on this? I will see him more so I'm wondering what to do. I don't flirt; I just get straight to it so I'm wondering what to do. Just wait?? Maybe I'm making a big deal out of nothing? I've been there recently. You have to think of yourself as his girlfriend and he flirting with other girls. How would that feel to you? I seriously considered just going for it, I was that crazy about him, he was seriously hot, and still is. But then, I stop myself and think what can a guy who is in an R whereby it's clearly serious, (if it were a one month thing, I may not be so bothered) want with another girl? Am I the only girl he's into outside his R? Probably not, or at least for now, but there'll be others. Do I want to share his affections with someone else? No. Much as I like him, I can't get into all of that, which will only lead to hurt on all parts, except his because he has two or more girls pining for his affections! The bit that intrigues me is that your male friends seem pretty clued up on this guy, maybe they know he's a bit of a player? Ask them why they think as they do of him, it may be quite enlightening. Sometimes people see what you can't in the throes of flirtation. If I were you, I'd try not to get too involved with this guy, if at all. He sounds like a player. We'd all love to believe that they'd be different with us, but truth be told, they won't be. Or if they are, you wouldn't believe they were. Choose someone available. And if he gets out of his R, then consider it if you still feel the same, but apply some distance between the two of you for now.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 What is this guy thinking? Does he think I'm easy and could be a quickie? Yes. If he wanted you to be his girlfriend, you'd be his girlfriend. He'd be talking about taking you places, telling you he loves you, wanting to spend time with you outside of bed, wanting to spend money on you, wanting to do things with you that won't lead directly to sex, etc. If you want to remove the other girl, go ahead - but understand this one thing: you will only remove her if her boyfriend wants her removed. If he does, and you end up with him - next spring break you'll be the one waiting at home while he tries to nail some other girl. Honestly, if you are only looking for NSA sex and not a boyfriend - this is your man.
harmfulsweetz Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 Yes. If he wanted you to be his girlfriend, you'd be his girlfriend. He'd be talking about taking you places, telling you he loves you, wanting to spend time with you outside of bed, wanting to spend money on you, wanting to do things with you that won't lead directly to sex, etc. If you want to remove the other girl, go ahead - but understand this one thing: you will only remove her if her boyfriend wants her removed. If he does, and you end up with him - next spring break you'll be the one waiting at home while he tries to nail some other girl. Honestly, if you are only looking for NSA sex and not a boyfriend - this is your man. 100% agree. He's after cheap thrills, sure, it may be fun for now. But what about when you want more, and he refuses to ditch the gf? He's bad news.
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