Nikki Sahagin Posted April 3, 2010 Posted April 3, 2010 Personally...I hate dating. I don't know who came up with it, but I think its designed by social butterflies FOR social butterflies. Now I am not a social butterfly (people think I am) but I am painstakingly shy and very nervous when I meet new people. Dates to me feel contrived, forced and awkward especially when you rarely meet someone you click with, feel chemistry with or are that interested by. Its just a one on one event where you try to feel some intimacy that just isn't there yet. I don't like them at ALL and wont subject myself to them. So how else do you meet people if you don't do 1 on 1 dates?
khria Posted April 3, 2010 Posted April 3, 2010 hmmm... I'm pretty new to 'traditional dating' myself. And also tend to really dislike the 'artificial' side of trying to make a connection with someone, but in a really contrived setting. I've been lucky in most cases, and have wound up being friends with people I used to date, but where a LTR wasn't in the cards. I guess I see finding meaningful relationships as an extension of finding friendships, except with people you have the hots for (mutually). How did you meet your closest friends? What things in the world matter to you most? And what things do you like to do? I think these are important questions to ask when it comes to meeting the right person...
Knittress Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 I felt like coming to your rescue and telling you that you're not alone and that you don't have "a serious problem" for "not wanting to be 1 on 1 with a man." It's not that, sheesh! 75% of the world are extroverts, and 75% of the world falls into the not-so-abstract category - and maybe that's not you. There's nothing wrong with feeling that trading biographical info with a stranger is boring and weird. It IS freaking inconvenient, however - because that's the way the rest of the world works. I'd suggest finding activities on meetup.com that suit your interests - maybe you'll find someone there, if not you'll at least have a good time.
Engadget Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 I don't mind dating, but I feel like the stereotypical conventions of the mating dance are stupid. I feel like if you're mature enough, you don't need to dance around the issues.
Rittenhouse Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 What about group dates or speed dating? Have you tried those ideas?
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