KareBare Posted April 3, 2010 Posted April 3, 2010 Okay, so I really need advice on what you folks think is going on with this. My ex broke it off with me like 6 months ago. She was cheating on me at the time anyways. I am 26, she is 21. We have a baby girl together and my focus has been on her primarily since birth, but still gave my ex plenty of attention when with her. Still... Might have been the cause of the cheating not sure. So we haven't talked in the past 6 months for the most part. Drop offs and pick ups of our daughter have been through daycare. Now she starts talking to me. Telling me how much she regrets everything she did, saying how she loves me. Yet she is still with somebody, yet she also says she wants to be my friend. I am not really in desire of a relationship anyways. I know though that if I jump into a friendship and she is in want of more, that will affect that again and I really can not deal with the drama again. Also I am not sure if it has anything to do with it, but I just signed a quite large contract with my employer and will be getting a lot more television time so I am not sure if that has much to do with it. So basically I have my life together, she is working 3 jobs and getting a substantial amount of support from me already and still complaining how difficult it is. I highly doubt her guy now is supporting her well. Last I knew he was a cook at Burger King or something. My question is though... What do you think this is all about? Does she really want a friendship or should I not bother because she may want something more and I don't. I want nothing more than a friendship for our beautiful little girl to see. I just don't want to fall into some black widow trap again...
Steelrain21 Posted April 3, 2010 Posted April 3, 2010 She was cheating on you and thought things with the other guy would work out. Things obviously didn't work out the way she was hoping, so now she's looking for some attention/affection from you to help boost her self confidence. Talking from personal experience, friends with exes is usually a BAD idea in 99% percent of the cases. Not impossible, but I think it usually takes a very long time for feelings to dissappear on both sides. I would say try to avoid any friendship with her as long as it's not affecting the relationship between you and the child. I can almost guarantee that friendship right now will equal drama down the road. You might think you want nothing more to do with her right now, but you might find some suppressed feelings coming back if you try being friends.
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