BobSacamento Posted April 3, 2010 Posted April 3, 2010 Does that bother you at all if the guy you are dating is in better shape than you are?
Fouts Posted April 3, 2010 Posted April 3, 2010 I doubt it. Men are suppose to be strong, fit and muscular. Women soft, curvy and cute.
OceanTropic Posted April 3, 2010 Posted April 3, 2010 Actually, that's a good question. My boyfriend of 2 months is a personal trainer. He is in great shape. I am not out of shape myself, but I am not as fit and as toned as he would like. It doesn't bother me, but I get self-concious sometimes when he mentions that I should go to the gym more often. He says its so I keep my shape and don't lose it. He isn't shallow and I know he isn't dating me for my looks, but I can understand why he wouldn't want me to get out of shape. After all, if you start dating a guy who looks great and later lets himself go, it's quite the turn off too right?
norajane Posted April 3, 2010 Posted April 3, 2010 It depends on the guy's attitude about it. If they think I'm awesome and treat me that way, it doesn't bother me. But if they were to be super-critical and pushy about it, the relationship would never work out. Half the guys I've dated have been in better shape than me. It really was never an issue. But it could have been if they were always in my face about working out and monitoring what I eat or making comments about it.
Xochitl Posted April 3, 2010 Posted April 3, 2010 I think it's the same as dating a guy who's way smarter. Some girls really like it. I actually feel kind of self-conscious! Having said that, it's a good kind of self-conscious because it makes me try to improve as well. On the other hand, of course, if a guy is toned and in a good shape, that's definitely attractive, and who wouldn't want to date an attractive guy? (As long as it doesn't mean he'll use his looks to get other girls behind your back! So really depends on how reliable the guy seems).
Mutant Debutante Posted April 3, 2010 Posted April 3, 2010 No, it just means he looks good with his clothes off, and why would I not appreciate that? Now if he's the roidhead buffed out male-stripper or bodybuilder type, that's a turnoff, but that's just not my type.
Chicago_Guy Posted April 3, 2010 Posted April 3, 2010 I think that a lot of women are insecure about this if the guy works out a lot and is in better shape than the girl. I have found that a lot of women do not trust the guy and assume that the guy probably just wants to use her and would really prefer a woman who also works out a lot.
Nikki Sahagin Posted April 3, 2010 Posted April 3, 2010 That's never been the case for me, I've always had the better body (no arrogance intended) but yes I think it would - I would assume they would get more attention and be more inclined to cheat (i'm suspicious)
Author BobSacamento Posted April 4, 2010 Author Posted April 4, 2010 I hope you're not considering becoming a chubby chaser. Come on man, things can't be THAT desperate nah lol, I just thought the majority of women wanted to be the thinner one of the couple. It appears that might not be true.
Fouts Posted April 4, 2010 Posted April 4, 2010 Yeah, right... While women are not supposed to be strong and muscular, they should be slim and fit. Curves are only a good thing when they are in the right places I'm using the opposite ends of the spectrum here I think in general men and women want their s/o to fit the conventional physical stereotypes. It's genetic hardwiring. Some guys want to date female bodybuilders, most men don't. Some women are attracted to effeminate beta males, most women aren't. I personally like skinny chicks that are toned and workout
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