Steelrain21 Posted April 3, 2010 Posted April 3, 2010 Just moved to a new city where I'm 900 miles away from anyone I know. About a month ago when I found out I was having to move, I met a girl from an online dating/friendship website. We emailed each other for a couple weeks and met up for coffee a few days after I got into town and hit things off pretty decently. I was pretty busy for a week after that getting settled in and starting my new job so we didn't talk for a few days after that. We ended up making plans to go out and eat together last Friday and maybe meet up with some of her friends afterwards. At this time I don't think either of us had an idea if we were interested in just a friendship or possibly more. Had a fun time a dinner and then she offered that she could drive me back to her place and watch a movie since her friends ended up not going out that night. We talked at her place for a couple hours and were really clicking well. I started noticing some obvious signals that she was interested in me. She started making more and more physical contact during the conversation. Saw that I had the green light so I made a move. I ended up crashing with her in her bed that night, we didn't hookup though. She had invited me out with her and some friends Saturday night earlier. While she was driving me home Saturday morning, she asked me again if I wanted to come. I said sure and told her I'd get a hold of her later on about it probably. Saturday evening rolled around and before I contacted her I got a text from her asking if I still wanted to come. She seemed eager to hangout again. Went out with her and her friends. All night she was showing lots of affection such as holding on to my arm or hand while walking. Crashed at her place again that night, messed around a little but no sex. After getting home Sunday morning I thought it'd be best to ease up a little and not rush anything so I waited a couple days before contacting her. I didn't think that was too long to wait where she'd think I wasn't interested. I texted her and told her that last weekend was fun and tossed in a little inside joke we had. Didn't get a reply for almost a day. She said she was flying out to CA for work for a day. I made a joke about being jealous and expecting a souvenir at least. She took another day to respond and said she was flying home but didn't have a souvenir. I replied by joking that I'd overlook it this time since I was finally getting a couch I wanted delivered. Haven't heard anything in a day and a half since. She'd usually send the texts this last week in the morning and I wouldn't see and answer them until I was done with work around 4ish, so it's not like I'm coming off as too eager. I'm 26 and have dated enough to think that I have a pretty good idea of how to keep a good balance of showing some interest but not seem too eager. I know now that I should probably give her some space and wait for her to contact me if she's interested. I'm just wondering if someone can really lose interest that fast? We had very good chemistry and she really doesn't seem like the type that likes to play the field. She even made a comment one night that my side of her bed "didn't get used that much." I'm just surprised at the complete 180 she seem to turn. Any advice/suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thanks to those who take the time to read this longer post.
EricaL81 Posted April 3, 2010 Posted April 3, 2010 During those few days you didn't contact her, she probably found herself looking at her phone too often wondering what's up with you. This could have caused her to feel as though she needed to slack up a little bit because she felt too into you or she could just be paying you back not contacting her a few days. Just continue to show interest in her and see what happens. If she has lost interest in you then it is what it is. Just take it for what it's worth and move on.
cooldudeinberlin Posted April 6, 2010 Posted April 6, 2010 How did all this play out? doesnt seem like enough time to pass to start foaming at the mouth... but ahhh... she's got you hooked a little bit and you are starting to wonder? Relax, back off all those thoughts and contact her again if nothing transpires in the next day or two... but for god's sake, stop all this teenager, insecure texting... dial the num and talk voice to voice... its much better.
Author Steelrain21 Posted April 10, 2010 Author Posted April 10, 2010 Well I was getting the vibe that I should probably back off for awhile after I really wasn't getting much communication from her. I figured that I had made several attempts to make contact and show that I was still interested, and if she felt the same that she would eventually contact me if I gave her a little space. I haven't contacted her since, and have not heard anything from her at all. Oh well, not the end of the world obviously. I've just never seen a girl change her mind like that so fast after clicking so well with her.
ecko280 Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 (edited) Well I was getting the vibe that I should probably back off for awhile after I really wasn't getting much communication from her. I figured that I had made several attempts to make contact and show that I was still interested, and if she felt the same that she would eventually contact me if I gave her a little space. I haven't contacted her since, and have not heard anything from her at all. Oh well, not the end of the world obviously. I've just never seen a girl change her mind like that so fast after clicking so well with her. You got "Friend Zone". You had 2 chance to have sex with her and you failed. You were a "NICE GUY", girls don't want a "NICE GUY" they want a MAN who knows what he wants and go after it. Edited April 10, 2010 by ecko280
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