Is he seriously interested or just messing with me???

[iamsoconfused]

How can you tell if he is emotionally attached or if he is just playing around. ALL of the signals indicate he is becoming emotionally attached and then, out of the blue, he tells me his hearts not ready for a relationship. But, continues with all of the other signals, (texting, 4 hour phone calls, 4 to 5 hour talk sessions while holding hands and nothing else, kissing, my hand, putting his hand on my leg, listening to music and simply holding hands while he kisses my hand every so often, flirting when he sees me, etc.) I think these are all definitely indicative of him having feelings for me but yet, he tells me he has not intentions. I don't really care, to be honest. I am happy when I am with him. I know he is happy when he is with me and hey, that can't be anything but good, right? I just don't know what to think. Sometimes his heart is so on his sleeve and then bam, he's acting like there's nothing.

[ADF]

While it is impossible to know for certain what another person is thinking, here'a a good rule of thumb. If a man is having sex with you, but says something to the effect that he's "not ready for a relationship," what he wants is FWB, not a GF.

 

Many men--maybe even most men--actually prefer having a FWB to having a GF. In a FWB, a guy gets all the advantages of having a GF, but with no strings. It is the ultimate win/win situation for him. Many men will try for a FWB if they can get it, and only settle for having a GF if they can't.

[iamsoconfused]

CLARIFICATION HERE!!!! There is no sex. NONE. Simply what I've described.

[ADF]

CLARIFICATION HERE!!!! There is no sex. NONE. Simply what I've described.

 

Okay, that does clarify things a bit. However, my diagnosis is the same. This man behaves like he is interested , yet makes clear he doesn't want a relationship. That still suggests he is trying to maneuver you into a FWB situation. What you are reading as signs of "emotional attachment" may be no such thing. Remember that for men, gestures of physical intimacy are NOT necessarily signs of emotional attachment.

[melodymatters]

Many men--maybe even most men--actually prefer having a FWB to having a GF. In a FWB, a guy gets all the advantages of having a GF, but with no strings. It is the ultimate win/win situation for him. Many men will try for a FWB if they can get it, and only settle for having a GF if they can't.

 

 

You DO realize that you say this in nearly every thread ? Perhaps you should just make it your signature line to save tme !