2yearsNC Posted April 2, 2010 Posted April 2, 2010 just a general question. i've been nc exactly 2 years now, i still remember. gf started acting funny/cheating and giving problems in sep 07. never figured it out, went vacationing on and off the following 5 months. things was just getting worse and by dec 07 we were not having sex and her friend told on her in feb 08 attempted to break up with her but she begged and cried and did a 180 uturn and blamed me. don't really remember what happen the rest of that year, all i know is i lost my money, apartment, furniture, business, and i remember it being Christmas and no was around. i moved back home, stayed with my mom and entered in a relationship for about 6 months, i broke it off, stayed home another 8 months and jan 2010, i moved to a new city. once i moved, i started rebuilding my life and got a new place, slowly getting back money and slowly building the business again. also started making new friends and reconnecting with old ones. so after 4 months, its like i have a life again a new one, and the ex is getting more and more distant in my head, almost like it never happen. ---- so thats my situtation, so my question is this: thats how life works? i had a dream about her yesterday, i don't know, i checked her fb profile today, no info, like i sort of wonder whats up with her. two years NC and i'm going strong. in the end, she thought i was a fool and that i was suppose to give her money while she fawked another man. she blamed me for everything, i think i was too nice to her. i think once she realized i loved her she tried to treat me like **** and after about a week of putting up with it, i did what i orginally did and just told her to **** off and since then i just let her keep hurting me. my question: how come i'm still semi-upset deep within me, and how come i want to know how her life is going? how come i still care? is it because i still have feelings? do i still have feelings? is that possible after 2 years of no contact?
spriggig Posted April 2, 2010 Posted April 2, 2010 ...i checked her fb profile today... Regardless of what excuses you've made for yourself these past two years, this is not NC. You've been fooling yourself. NC means NO CONTACT AT ALL, in either direction by any means.
Author 2yearsNC Posted April 2, 2010 Author Posted April 2, 2010 (edited) checking face book counts as contact? is that what you are saying? maybe you are right, maybe by looking at her picture i am keeping the memory alive, maybe thats why i did not forget yet. Edited April 2, 2010 by 2yearsNC
Sbrizio Posted April 2, 2010 Posted April 2, 2010 i've been in NC with my ex for almost 10 months now. No pictures, no FB, no re-reading of old emails; Just one common friend who never talks me about her. Still there are days when i miss her deeply. But these days are less and less frequent; And lately i started feeling things for other girls (just sympathy, or physical attraction, nothing comparable to falling in love, but i believe that's a start). Maybe i'll never forget her completely no matter how hard i try.. and why should i, since she left me such a deep trace, this trace is now a part of me. Nevertheless i'm coming to the realization that one day, maybe, i'll be able to love again..someone else; It's a though that builds-up slowly, it took me 10 months and a lot of self work and external help just to arrive to this point, i wonder how much it'll take for me to really fall in love with someone new.. it's anyway refreshing to know that there are days when you wake up, you breath deeply and you feel alive and happy. so my hint is not to focus on the moments you miss her (or you wonder about her)..it happens:these moments come and pass, like rainy days. Keep up, F.
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