WSeeker Posted April 2, 2010 Posted April 2, 2010 Hi everyone i need to share this with you and read your opinions. My girlfriend broke up with me in august, she fell for another guy.We had contact for about several months and then i decided to go NC. I stoped calling her, visiting her facebook profile, myspace and i deleted her email from my gmail acc. I stoped contacting her in december 2009. I simply didnt want to know what she was doing and with whom she went to bed. (Aparenty she had quite a few guys after me like 5-6 in a six months after our breakup. Ok so January, February and March was great. I found a new girl but i am not in a serious relationship more like FWB thing. I would commit but my new girl said she wants it that way.(She has her on issues with relationships but its another matter) I am completely satisfied with my new relationship. On March 27 she contacted me through msn. We talked via msn in the past when we were together but at that time she only installed it to talk to me cause i didnt want to use gtalk which she used. When we broke up she didnt use msn anymore and was offline all the time so i deleted her but i didnt blocked. I kept my msn cause i had other contacts, friends. As time passed i didnt used msn that much and eventually stoped using it and i was online on msn very rarely. So, Saturday night i started it for no reason and everybody was away or busy so i left it online for few minutes and started playing a computer game. 5 minutes later i exited the game and saw that my msn is blinking and she said ,,Hi, how are you doing''. Needles to say i was very surprised. She contacted me in offline mode, she was apparently lurking me. We talked for 30 minutes and through out the whole conversation she had initiative, bombarding me with questions. She asked about everything, how was i doing, praised me for my new work(i am a sculptor and i post my work on facebook) and eventually asked of my love life. I said everything as it is. She said she doesnt like me being with that girl and i ignored that comment( i should have said its none of your business). Two times in our conversation she said how happy she was with her life and with her work, and i said, ok, to that.(she is a film editor). After 30 minutes of chat she said ,,ty for your time'', and i said ,,youre welcome'' and then she sent a smile. As you can see she was very friendly, the opposite of what she was when we broke up. 5 days later i was curious and went to her facebook and found out that she broke up with her new boyfriend (as i said she had them like 5 or 6 in all this time so i dont know whicj guy that was) at the same day she contacted me. Saturday 27 March. What do you guys, what does she want i want to hear your opinions. As far as im concerned i dont want to get back with her or stay friends.
spriggig Posted April 2, 2010 Posted April 2, 2010 As far as im concerned i dont want to get back with her or stay friends. Here ya go, you answered it yourself. But, the fact that you posted this shows that you are at least thinking about trying to start again with her. This was just her feeling you out, that she said she didn't like you seeing the other girl does NOT mean she wants you back. It just means she still wants some say over your life. Go back into NC and stay there. If, in the future there is any chance between you two, it will come from her side AND it will be her begging to get back with you and promising to do whatever it takes to make that happen.
cdt76 Posted April 2, 2010 Posted April 2, 2010 My opinion is that she doesn't have anyone else right now that she can throw herself at to satisfy her low self esteem. She knows you and knows you loved her so she is getting her self gratification by talking to you and getting in your mind. Don't fall for it.
Author WSeeker Posted April 2, 2010 Author Posted April 2, 2010 Thx guys for your replies . But, the fact that you posted this shows that you are at least thinking about trying to start again with her. Well, i was thinking a lot about my life but at my current situation even if she wanted to come back to me it would cause tremendous amounts of problems. She apparently has a lot of problems, but thats another matter alltogether, we would need a new thread just for that. I would decline if she asked, but yes i was thinking a lot about trying to start again with her mainly because we have a lot of great memories together and when you hear from her these memories just start rushing all over me. But that nostalgia doesnt last more than one day. Its just chemicals. One good quote crossed my mind: "Love is just a chemical, no matter the origin. We give it meaning by choice."
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