Navi Posted April 2, 2010 Posted April 2, 2010 First off I never thought I'd say I want a guy back. But I guess that is how I feel. I'll try to summarize as best I can. I met this guy in the summer. We started out as friends. It was long distance so I wasn't entertaining ideas of anything more. But as we got to know each other, things just clicked and he mentioned coming to see me and it progressed like that for a few months. We made plans to visit. At one point he starts to be a bit more distant, started to hang out with friends more. I got upset and reacted badly. I can admit that. I freaked at him and pretty much pushed him until he said I can't do this anymore. I know I was being needy/clingy when I shouldn't have been. I also know that just before he got distant I was being a bit bitchy with him when I shouldn't have been. I realized all this a lot later unfortunately. I realized I need to change in a lot of ways and in a lot of attitudes. He tried to contact me 3 weeks later as if nothing happened. I kept being overly upset with him every time he would contact me. It has never been more than 3 weeks at most before he tries to contact me. At many points he mentions just being afraid of commitment and I imagine I scared him away being overly needy for such a short relationship and because we are so far away. I recently initiated no contact. Saying I can't stand to be in the friend zone, but if he can't give me what I want then I can't keep in contact with him. He mentions he regrets hurting me and not coming to visit when he said. But so far we seem in limbo. I was going to try the no contact for a bit to see what happens after. Am I just wasting my time?
USMCHokie Posted April 2, 2010 Posted April 2, 2010 But so far we seem in limbo. I was going to try the no contact for a bit to see what happens after. Am I just wasting my time? NC is never a waste a time. And you are not in limbo. NC is not limbo. NC is progress. NC is moving forward, away from something that didn't work out, eventually to something that will be much better for you. You're doing the right thing.
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