Why is my wife with me?

[Woggle]

Why did you feel you would look weak by cooking for her? It would have been the sweetest thing in the world.

 

Because my coworkers told me that it would make me pathetic. I also know how women react to sweetness and it is not good.

[xxoo]

Because my coworkers told me that it would make me pathetic. I also know how women react to sweetness and it is not good.

 

Please stop listening to your coworkers. They don't have your best interests in mind. They are miserable, and misery loves company.

 

Sweet women love sweet men.

 

Sorry, what is CBT?

 

cognitive behavioral therapy

[Woggle]

Sweet women love sweet men.

 

 

 

 

This is completely untrue.

[xxoo]

This is completely untrue.

 

I'm a sweet woman, and I say otherwise. Who would know better, me or you?

 

At risk of being too Forrest Gump...sweet is as sweet does. Anyone who treat her sweet guy badly is, by definition, not sweet. I think you've met precious few good women, Woggle

[Woggle]

I'm a sweet woman, and I say otherwise. Who would know better, me or you?

 

At risk of being too Forrest Gump...sweet is as sweet does. Anyone who treat her sweet guy badly is, by definition, not sweet. I think you've met precious few good women, Woggle

 

Every man knows that taking love advice from women is pretty much useless. What they say and what they do is worlds apart.

[White Flower]

Because my coworkers told me that it would make me pathetic. I also know how women react to sweetness and it is not good.

Well then DON't listen to your coworkers! And your second statement is just way off base. In my experience, when a man is sweet to me HE BENEFITS BIG TIME.

[xxoo]

Every man knows that taking love advice from women is pretty much useless.

 

Untrue. I've had a lifetime of male friends come to me for R advice. Why would they keep turning to me if "every man" knows it is useless? Not every man believes that.

 

What they say and what they do is worlds apart.

 

Are you talking about generic "woman" here again, or are you talking about your wife? Because you are only married to one woman. Do her actions match her words?

[Woggle]

Because men think that women give the best advice on women but is 100% false. Women tell men one thing and do the other. It happens all the time.

 

So far my wife's actions match her words but who knows what she tells people at work.

[xxoo]

Because men think that women give the best advice on women but is 100% false. Women tell men one thing and do the other. It happens all the time.

 

So far my wife's actions match her words but who knows what she tells people at work.

 

Again, you make sweeping generalizations about all women.

 

Your wife's actions match her words. She's behaved in a way that should earn trust. If you do not trust her, despite her trustworthy behavior, the problem lies with you--NOT with "women".

 

Woggle, do you read the stuff men say on here about their wives? Do you hear what men say at work about their wives? I do. Still, I'm not married to those guys. I'm married to one good man, and I trust him not to be a completely different person at work. I'm sure those women you work with aren't sweet roses at home

[TaraMaiden]

Woggle, Woggle Woggle.......

 

Both Men and women have all told you the same thing in this thread, basically.

Yet you insist that you are right, and everyone else is wrong.

You're projecting your own shortcomings onto your poor, faithful, loving, patient and constant wife.

You are writing the perfect recipe for disaster - your own self-fulfilling prophecy.

 

Keep going pal, and when you finally come onto this board and start vilifying your wife for leaving you, and calling her all the names under the sun - you'll know, deep down - just like we know, right from the start - that the one to hammer the nails in, was nobody but you.

If she leaves you, it will all have been through your own self-sabotaging efforts.

 

If we take you at all seriously now - trust me - carry on as you are, and you'll have no credibility left at all.

Sometimes, you talk a lot of sense.

This thread is pure, putrid utter bull.

[Trimmer]

If women love it when men cook for them why is it that I hear two women everyday laughing at their husbands for things like that.

Because MOST women love it, and you prefer to reinforce your stereotypes by believing that THOSE TWO women represent MOST women.

 

 

Every man knows that taking love advice from women is pretty much useless. What they say and what they do is worlds apart.

And so, DING DING DING - how is it that you are so convinced that those two at work represent most women? You apply your rationalizations capriciously, only when they support your entrenched opinion. Then you reject credible evidence with a wave of your hand: "well, I just believe that women are this way..."

 

How low will you go this time? How long will it take for you to "come back" and recognize that your wife is not "all women" or especially "those two at work?" Will you make it back this time? The cycle continues.

[Luv2dance]

Because MOST women love it, and you prefer to reinforce your stereotypes by believing that THOSE TWO women represent MOST women.

 

 

 

And so, DING DING DING - how is it that you are so convinced that those two at work represent most women? You apply your rationalizations capriciously, only when they support your entrenched opinion. Then you reject credible evidence with a wave of your hand: "well, I just believe that women are this way..."

 

How low will you go this time? How long will it take for you to "come back" and recognize that your wife is not "all women" or especially "those two at work?" Will you make it back this time? The cycle continues.

 

Amen!! If you KNOW these women at work are cheaters and no good then WHY on earth would you take their advice??

 

I am sorry to hear about the bad ex, and I can imagine that would throw anyone for a loop, but that in no way is the majority of women. There are plenty who would love to have a caring man who likes for them to cook a bday dinner....seriously!!

[Woggle]

What does it say when I try so hard not to think this way but every time the evidence just stares me in the face. Do you want me to deny what is right in front of me?

[Luv2dance]

What does it say when I try so hard not to think this way but every time the evidence just stares me in the face. Do you want me to deny what is right in front of me?

 

What is in front of you?? You just said your wife's actions match her words?? THAT is the only woman you should be concerned about.

[Woggle]

What is in front of you?? You just said your wife's actions match her words?? THAT is the only woman you should be concerned about.

 

She is good at being nice to my face at home but who knows what she really thinks?

[Pyro]

You are such a drama queen Woggle.

 

You want to solve your problem? Divorce her. You will be by yourself and you never have to worry about a woman hurting you ever again.

[northstar1]

She is good at being nice to my face at home but who knows what she really thinks?

 

Here is a solution for you Woggle, since you seem to find so much wrong with being in a relationship with a woman

 

Divorce her

 

Use an escort service- these girls won't have a thought in their head about you, other than that you are paying.

[CarrieT]

She is good at being nice to my face at home but who knows what she really thinks?

 

I very distinctly remember a post you made several months ago where you were reading her email and were shocked to learn how she really feels about you: THAT SHE LOVES YOU.

 

You can continue asking her "what she really thinks," probably not believe her, and go on tormenting yourself this way.

 

As others have suggested, divorce her. You obviously don't love her to have these constant rants.

[TaraMaiden]

What does it say when I try so hard not to think this way but every time the evidence just stares me in the face. Do you want me to deny what is right in front of me?

 

Ok... so you have 2 women at work who seem to demonstrate a tendency to belittle their husbands.

Do they do this all the time? Are they constantly insulting about their husbands?

is their behaviour habitual?

 

if there are two women at work behaving like this, but dozens on here telling you they're not typical and that they're in the minority, you're still going to believe their attitudes rather than those of the majority?

 

She is good at being nice to my face at home but who knows what she really thinks?

 

Good, kind, compassionate, loving and sympathetic behaviour is very difficult to sustain if it isn't sincere. Sooner or later the cracks will show.....

 

Ha she shown that her attitude as a whole, is insincere?

Are the cracks in her character beginning to show?

 

Has she given you any cause whatsoever, to doubt that her feelings for you are genuine?

Or is she really just another lying cold-hearted two-faced cheating bitch like every other woman?

[White Flower]

What does it say when I try so hard not to think this way but every time the evidence just stares me in the face. Do you want me to deny what is right in front of me?

Talk about....what is the expression when you believe something so much and then it actually happens? Darn, I'll think about this all day now. But Woggle, change your thinking patterns. If you think she WILL appreciate the sweet things, then she will. Don't wait (or expect )for her not to. Create the destiny you want.

[Lizzie60]

Why is my wife with me?

I haven't read the thread.. but from the posts I read before from you.. I'm seriously asking myself the same question.. honestly... I have no clue.

[Mme. Chaucer]

Woggle,

 

Where in the heck do you work?

 

Are you abusive to your wife? Are you extremely controlling?

 

I ask because of my first hand knowledge of a man whose hatred and low opinion of women rivaled yours. He was physically and emotionally abusive and ended up trying to destroy his partner (physically and mentally) so she would not be able to function. He ended up in prison. She ended up in the hospital, but I think she is doing well now.

 

I find it really hard to imagine what daily life with a man like you must be like for a woman. It must be horrible.

[Woggle]

I have never physically abused a woman ever and I do not think I emotionally abuse my wife. If I were a woman I can't help but thinking the women on here would fully agree with me.

[threebyfate]

I have never physically abused a woman ever and I do not think I emotionally abuse my wife. If I were a woman I can't help but thinking the women on here would fully agree with me.

You continuously emotionally abuse women on LS by spouting your misogynistic nonsense. Why would you be any different with your wife?

[Woggle]

You continuously emotionally abuse women on LS by spouting your misogynistic nonsense. Why would you be any different with your wife?

 

I think that I just tell it like it is. I don't see it as abuse. If I were a woman would you feel the same way.