Allay my fears...or don't! (Fourth Date with Cute Girl--Warning: Looong)

[red_barchetta]

So I've somehow wrangled myself a fourth date tomorrow night with this really cute girl I met online, but I find myself constantly wondering how the hell she could be interested in a guy like me. Why? Because I'm am embarrassingly inexperienced when it comes to dating, let alone four of them with the same girl (this is indeed my first fourth date, for those keeping track at home).

 

The first three dates went pretty well--we met up for pool the first night, though only for an hour or so, as she had to jet in order to grab something from a local store (which she invited me to tag along with her on). Second date, I gave her a ride on my motorcycle down to a very casual restaurant/tavern--when I went in for the goodbye hug, it looked like she may have been ready for a kiss, but I mentally freaked out and bailed (I also could be wrong about that--I'm an idiot, after all). The last date we walked to another restaurant, but on the way back it started raining, so I put her arm around her to keep her close/warm, and then she put hers around me.

 

At any rate, I haven't kissed her yet. The whole 'arm around thing' is the most physical interaction we've had, aside from the hugs that bookend each evening. And there hasn't been any flirting really--is that typical? (I'm terrible at that, and don't really even know where to start *sigh*)

 

Here's what it's like to be inside my head (it's a scary place, I don't recommend it):

 

• Could she really interested in me?
  
• What if I'm already in the dreaded "friend zone" already?
  
• What the hell is the island in Lost anyway?
  
• What's my next move? Do I kiss her? When do I kiss her? HOW do I kiss her?
  

 

I mean, she wouldn't go out with me a fourth time if she wasn't interested...right? And I pretty much need to make a move next, right? Like I said, I have almost no experience (which is pathetic, given I'm in my 20s...) and I've only ever kissed a girl once...while drunk, and I'd rather not slobber all over this new girl without fair warning I guess I'm just feeling the immense weight of my ignorance when it comes to dealing with girls and I really don't want to blow this one, whether it's by kissing her at the wrong time, or screwing up the kiss entirely (remember, I've barely kissed a girl before, so I'm sure I'll find someway to mess it up).

 

Okay, I've written way too much about this--I don't know what exactly it is I hope to gain by posting this, except for perhaps some advice from some of you more seasoned veterans.

Edited April 1, 2010 by red_barchetta

[bac]

She likes you, if she goes out with you. You need some testosterone in your blood to make a kiss. My advice is that before you go out with her, you watch some porno to increase your sex drive. Get yourself horny, it will work in the right direction against your irrational fears of 'friend zone' and other fears. The more testosterone in a man's blood, the less anxiety/fear he experiences.

 

As for how to kiss her, the best way is to stop thinking at all. Relax and follow your instincts.

Just do not think about anything and do what you want.

Edited April 1, 2010 by bac

[boogieboy]

She likes you, if she goes out with you. You need some testosterone in your blood to make a kiss. My advice is that before you go out with her, you watch some porno to increase your sex drive. Get yourself horny, it will work in the right direction against your irrational fears of 'friend zone' and other fears. The more testosterone in a man's blood, the less anxiety/fear he experiences.

 

Oh HELLL No thats not the way to go.

 

Look dood, she wants to be in YOUR world. Act like your world is the shyt. Thats how you think. Youre not trying to impress her, youre not worried about sex, you cant do anything wrong if she likes you. Youre just hanging with her to see if she is worth tagging along with you - in your world. Thats how you think about it. She gave you all good signs, and she might not flirt until you flirt first. So take a breath, keep the porn in the closet, and be cool.

 

At some point halfway through your next date, when shes looking up at you smiling, say something smooth and plant a soft one on her. Shes waiting for it.

 

NOW, if you plant one on her , or try to, and she recoils, then you end the date right then and there. Take her home. Dont deal with a woman who isnt into you. Dont ask why, dont worry about it, its not your problem. You can easily get another date.

[red_barchetta]

At some point halfway through your next date, when shes looking up at you smiling, say something smooth and plant a soft one on her. Shes waiting for it.

 

I like your style...I'm just not sure if there'll be much chance tomorrow. We're seeing a movie, then dinner...Clearly I'm not very good at this

[boogieboy]

I like your style...I'm just not sure if there'll be much chance tomorrow. We're seeing a movie, then dinner...Clearly I'm not very good at this

Make a move on the way to dinner.

[bac]

Make a move on the way to dinner.

 

I would want to kiss a man after dinner because after dinner I am happy and relaxed especially if I had a dessert. For a good kiss, I prefer a place where we are alone and private. It is good when it is a little bit dark. Preferable position is seated. A car is good. Your/her place is the best if you are alone.

Music is fine as well.

Then, you are talking about smth easy, pleasant and relaxing.

You are slowly touching her hands, shoulders, or back, or neck, or hair. See her reaction, if she is fine, continue touching her body. Let her get comfortable with it. Continue talking. The best is to ask her questions about her. Be understanding and accepting about anything she might say. Get closer to her.

Slowly move your face to her face. Touch her lips with your lips. Check her reaction. If she is fine, open your mouth and take her lips inside your lips.

Play with her lips the way you want. Suck them, use your tongue to get inside her mouth (if you want), touch her tongue with your tongue or whatever you want. For me, a man's tongue represents his d...k. When you kiss her, keep your hands on her body stroking it passionately.

If she knows/or feels what she is doing, she will move her lips and tongue in tune with yours. You both are enjoying the moment and you should not think about anything else except how good it feels.

If at any moment her reaction is wrong, try to kiss her again later or postpone it for your next date with her.

[silic0ntoad]

Dude, you've got this in the bag. You have so many opportunities to lay one on her through a dinner/movie date.

 

Right after dinner.

 

During the movie.

 

After the movie beforee you two get in the car.

 

When you drop her off.

 

Ugh. Soo simple.

[red_barchetta]

Dude, you've got this in the bag. You have so many opportunities to lay one on her through a dinner/movie date.

 

Right after dinner.

 

During the movie.

 

After the movie beforee you two get in the car.

 

When you drop her off.

 

Ugh. Soo simple.

 

But she might be picking me up and/or taking public transportation

 

But yeah, I suppose there are ample chances. I guess I'm just afraid of making it seem forced and/or doing it wrong... =P

[silic0ntoad]

But she might be picking me up and/or taking public transportation

 

But yeah, I suppose there are ample chances. I guess I'm just afraid of making it seem forced and/or doing it wrong... =P

 

 

If she takes a train, perfect romantic moment man. Walk her to the station, and kiss her before it whisks her off.

 

Dude this is too easy. Trust your instinct. When she is looking up at you smiling, you'll know. Go in for it. And slay her for the rest of us!

[CLC2008]

So I've somehow wrangled myself a fourth date tomorrow night with this really cute girl I met online, but I find myself constantly wondering how the hell she could be interested in a guy like me. Why? Because I'm am embarrassingly inexperienced when it comes to dating, let alone four of them with the same girl (this is indeed my first fourth date, for those keeping track at home).

 

The first three dates went pretty well--we met up for pool the first night, though only for an hour or so, as she had to jet in order to grab something from a local store (which she invited me to tag along with her on). Second date, I gave her a ride on my motorcycle down to a very casual restaurant/tavern--when I went in for the goodbye hug, it looked like she may have been ready for a kiss, but I mentally freaked out and bailed (I also could be wrong about that--I'm an idiot, after all). The last date we walked to another restaurant, but on the way back it started raining, so I put her arm around her to keep her close/warm, and then she put hers around me.

 

At any rate, I haven't kissed her yet. The whole 'arm around thing' is the most physical interaction we've had, aside from the hugs that bookend each evening. And there hasn't been any flirting really--is that typical? (I'm terrible at that, and don't really even know where to start *sigh*)

 

Here's what it's like to be inside my head (it's a scary place, I don't recommend it):

 

• Could she really interested in me?
  
• What if I'm already in the dreaded "friend zone" already?
  
• What the hell is the island in Lost anyway?
  
• What's my next move? Do I kiss her? When do I kiss her? HOW do I kiss her?
  

 

I mean, she wouldn't go out with me a fourth time if she wasn't interested...right? And I pretty much need to make a move next, right? Like I said, I have almost no experience (which is pathetic, given I'm in my 20s...) and I've only ever kissed a girl once...while drunk, and I'd rather not slobber all over this new girl without fair warning I guess I'm just feeling the immense weight of my ignorance when it comes to dealing with girls and I really don't want to blow this one, whether it's by kissing her at the wrong time, or screwing up the kiss entirely (remember, I've barely kissed a girl before, so I'm sure I'll find someway to mess it up).

 

Okay, I've written way too much about this--I don't know what exactly it is I hope to gain by posting this, except for perhaps some advice from some of you more seasoned veterans.

 

to the question about Lost, that was funny.

 

I'm not going to give advice because it seems when women try to on here, we always hear "don't listen to her". But me personally, I would not go on that many dates with someone if I wasn't into him.

[TouchedByViolet]

Just go for the kiss!!!!

[Tres]

If she takes a train, perfect romantic moment man. Walk her to the station, and kiss her before it whisks her off.

 

Dude this is too easy. Trust your instinct. When she is looking up at you smiling, you'll know. Go in for it. And slay her for the rest of us!

 

Some girls have public affection display anxiety. In this case,

I hope he does not have public rejection problems.

[red_barchetta]

Some girls have public affection display anxiety. In this case,

I hope he does not have public rejection problems.

 

Luckily, it didn't come to that! So I just ended my date with her and I laid one on her after she dropped me off at my place! And I guess she liked it enough that I'm seeing her again tomorrow!

 

Man, I was nervous as hell, but I did it and I'm so happy I did...it may not have been the best kiss in the world (need to work on my technique now), but she looked like she was ready for it!

 

Thanks all for the advice--I'm just glad I worked up the courage to do so. This should make interacting with her much easier now--hell, I couldn't even manage to get my arm around her during the movie we saw earlier, so this is a big step for me!

[CLC2008]

Luckily, it didn't come to that! So I just ended my date with her and I laid one on her after she dropped me off at my place! And I guess she liked it enough that I'm seeing her again tomorrow!

 

Man, I was nervous as hell, but I did it and I'm so happy I did...it may not have been the best kiss in the world (need to work on my technique now), but she looked like she was ready for it!

 

Thanks all for the advice--I'm just glad I worked up the courage to do so. This should make interacting with her much easier now--hell, I couldn't even manage to get my arm around her during the movie we saw earlier, so this is a big step for me!

 

That's good news, congrats