jen_r Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 Anyone here Jewish? Or has anyone dated a Jew? I thought the sterotype of jewish mothers was just that, a sterotype. But my ex's mother, yikes. Controlling, manipulative, used guilt trips, pried (sp?) into our lives...etc. She even ultimately forced him to break up with me. He was deathly afraid of her, he would never admit it though. It was pretty pathetic. Anyone ever had any problems with your SO's parents being overbearing, or anything? How did you deal with it?
mark982 Posted April 2, 2010 Posted April 2, 2010 my ex in laws where the absolute pits. always in my (our) business, and of course i was always wrong. didn't matter what it was. and you talk about slobs,never seen nothing like this,who has a boat motor in their bedroom? not talking parts but the whole damn motor. ex-fil would sit in his rocking chair and flick his cigeratte ashes on the floor, christ i think the whole family had 8 teeth between them, cob webs all through the house. ate at their house once and what i thought was chicken was actually possum. felt like i should of been in southern west va.
Author jen_r Posted April 2, 2010 Author Posted April 2, 2010 my ex in laws where the absolute pits. always in my (our) business, and of course i was always wrong. didn't matter what it was. and you talk about slobs,never seen nothing like this,who has a boat motor in their bedroom? not talking parts but the whole damn motor. ex-fil would sit in his rocking chair and flick his cigeratte ashes on the floor, christ i think the whole family had 8 teeth between them, cob webs all through the house. ate at their house once and what i thought was chicken was actually possum. felt like i should of been in southern west va. Lol, ok thats pretty bad. But I mean, were they terrible towards you?
D-Lish Posted April 2, 2010 Posted April 2, 2010 Anyone here Jewish? Or has anyone dated a Jew? I thought the sterotype of jewish mothers was just that, a sterotype. But my ex's mother, yikes. Controlling, manipulative, used guilt trips, pried (sp?) into our lives...etc. She even ultimately forced him to break up with me. He was deathly afraid of her, he would never admit it though. It was pretty pathetic. Anyone ever had any problems with your SO's parents being overbearing, or anything? How did you deal with it? I don't think it's a Jewish stereotype as much as it is a universal stereotype of mother-in-laws in general. My ex In-laws were Hungarian Catholic, and my ex's mother was a tyrant. Her greatest weapon was guilt. She would call our house 17 times a day, and she fluctuated between pretending I didn't exist and attacking me personally. Ultimately, you are better off without a man that can't stand up to his mother- believe me.
Author jen_r Posted April 2, 2010 Author Posted April 2, 2010 I don't think it's a Jewish stereotype as much as it is a universal stereotype of mother-in-laws in general. My ex In-laws were Hungarian Catholic, and my ex's mother was a tyrant. Her greatest weapon was guilt. She would call our house 17 times a day, and she fluctuated between pretending I didn't exist and attacking me personally. Ultimately, you are better off without a man that can't stand up to his mother- believe me. Yeah, you're right about it being a universal "stereotype". I know I am better off without him, it was actually quite pathetic to see how scared of her he was. He was just as afraid of his sister, which is even more baffling. As much as I truly miss him, I'm glad to have his family out of my life. His mother was too much. Asking him how much money I had in the bank, if I paid my own bills, if I poisioned his food?!?!? No lady, but I would poison yours...
D-Lish Posted April 2, 2010 Posted April 2, 2010 Yeah, you're right about it being a universal "stereotype". I know I am better off without him, it was actually quite pathetic to see how scared of her he was. He was just as afraid of his sister, which is even more baffling. As much as I truly miss him, I'm glad to have his family out of my life. His mother was too much. Asking him how much money I had in the bank, if I paid my own bills, if I poisioned his food?!?!? No lady, but I would poison yours... In laws can really interfere with a relationship. My Mother-in-law actually tore a strip off me when my husband and I split and we divided our furniture. I took all the antiques I had inherited from my own family and she thought that was unfair. My exH was fine with it, because it was my family heirlooms I took- but he said nothing as she fought with me about it. As if I was going to give him/her my grandparents antiques that I inherited before I had ever met him! A guy that can't stand up to his mother is never going to make a good partner. You would have been miserable had you married him, because the interference would have gotten worse had you stayed. My ex-MIL used to tell me I was fat, even though I was never fat- and she was! I hated that woman, and I grew to resent my ex because he didn't stand up for himself, or for me. You ARE better off. Both of us should just date orphans from here on out...lol:cool:
Author jen_r Posted April 2, 2010 Author Posted April 2, 2010 In laws can really interfere with a relationship. My Mother-in-law actually tore a strip off me when my husband and I split and we divided our furniture. I took all the antiques I had inherited from my own family and she thought that was unfair. My exH was fine with it, because it was my family heirlooms I took- but he said nothing as she fought with me about it. As if I was going to give him/her my grandparents antiques that I inherited before I had ever met him! A guy that can't stand up to his mother is never going to make a good partner. You would have been miserable had you married him, because the interference would have gotten worse had you stayed. My ex-MIL used to tell me I was fat, even though I was never fat- and she was! I hated that woman, and I grew to resent my ex because he didn't stand up for himself, or for me. You ARE better off. Both of us should just date orphans from here on out...lol:cool: Lol @ dating orphans. Not a BAD idea. I've got some MIL war stories to trade! Our families have lake houses near each other, and last summer we were all up there. I spent friday night dinner at his fams house, and then on Sat he was hangin with my fam down the beach and my mom invited him out to dinner with us. You will die when you hear his response. "Um, yeah sure, I just have to run it by my mom." Mind you, he is 25 years old. I gave him a look like o.O are you f*n kidding me. He comes back after running to his house to talk with her, she says "I don't think thats a good idea." And he couldn't come.
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