Has anyone just instantly divorced/dumped someone on the spot for cheating?

[Joe Normal]

I see so many threads on here where people umm and aah, dithering about what to do when they find out the love of their life cheated on them. Has anyone just immediately ending things for good as soon as they found out about the infidelity? What happened after?

[laRubiaBonita]

i did the second time.... the first time was a make out and the second time was lying and then the suspicion of cheating- Really the first tome killed me, but i gave him the benefit of 'just a kiss' plus we lived together at the time.

i soon moved out, but still was with him.

 

then i was just on guard and totally untrustworthy of him.... then i learned of some lies he had told- maybe nothing happened, but involved an ex- that was the last straw..... he was out of the country when i learned about it- from snooping in what was once our house.

 

i trashed the house- wrote things on the walls, put sand in the carpet, crushed unopened bags of chips, unplugged the fridge....... ya know- screwed him

 

i was his ride from the airport- i got all my stuff from the house and left him high and dry at the airport.

 

it was liberating!

[LucreziaBorgia]

I was seeing a guy and left for the weekend to visit family. The next week, someone told me that he had his ex over that weekend. I called him, he admitted it and I dumped him right then and there over the phone. What happened? I'd see him around from time to time, but I would not talk to him and would not take his calls. Eventually he just left me alone.

[CarrieT]

I ended my marriage immediately when I came home early from work and found my husband on the living room floor with several other MEN.

 

There didn't seem to be any reason to try and work on a marriage when he would rather have sex with guys...

 

The divorce was ugly and in the subsequent twenty years, I have had three long-term relationships, but no other marriages. I have now been single for two years with no prospects whatsoever (I haven't had a date in six months).

[blueberries]

i had suspected that something was fishy but had no solid proof...until i found some of his emails to other women/about other women to his guy friends. i ended it that very night. he cried and begged, but by that point i didn't care and told him to cry himself a river.

[ADF]

Excellent question. I haven't, but I damned will should have. The trouble is that people involved in a breakup are always ambivelant. The idea of somehow salvaging things plays in our minds much longer than it should. It takes a thick skin to just drop someone cold-bloodedly. However, it is someone everyone should work on being able to do. There are a lot of awful people in the world.

[Nikki Sahagin]

I don't think a lot of people dump a partner immediately because they go into a kind of numbing shock where they can absorb the infidelity and then tend to want to find out more or mentally/emotionally prepare themselves for what is to come. I think to dump someone immediately is a very brave thing to do.

[FryFish]

Not the first time... But now I dont think I fall in love to the same degree anymore so I do a disappearing act whenever I encounter a familiar lie.