OOReeee Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 Hey LSers. I was wondering if anyone has ever had a break up with someone they work with, and tried to do NC... My ex and I have an overlap of about an hour where I am at the front desk and she is in the back. I completely ignore her now and that hour that we work together is extremely awkward, because both of us are there... As much as I'd like to continue the NC, I want to know what happened to any of you where you were around the person you didn't want to talk to or hang out with but you were forced to be around them. Thanks!
LovelyDaze Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 Hey LSers. I was wondering if anyone has ever had a break up with someone they work with, and tried to do NC... My ex and I have an overlap of about an hour where I am at the front desk and she is in the back. I completely ignore her now and that hour that we work together is extremely awkward, because both of us are there... As much as I'd like to continue the NC, I want to know what happened to any of you where you were around the person you didn't want to talk to or hang out with but you were forced to be around them. Thanks! Before my ex left for active duty overseas, we would do idle chit chat that was awkward as hell could possibly get. I had to see him smile while texting his new GF, discuss his plans with her with other co-workers and here about that later no matter where I went to avoid it. Eventually he got the "itch" being flirtacious with me then he would text cutesy messages about how nice I looked to him or whatever that day until he finally just flat out asked if he could come over and "hang out" since HE felt we were still friends. Pffft! He's been in Kabul for 2 months now and I have had a couple of dates since this year. I DEFINITELY would advise against getting into a relationship with a co-worker. It's bad enough to be dumped but to see that person 5 days a week AND try to do your job is next to impossible to deal with.
Cantcope Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 My ex and I just broke up and I have to see him several times a day at the office. It kills me. I'm scared that it will take 10 times as long to get over him!!!
Odyssey Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 OP, ex and i used to ignored each other to begin with (many painful moments too). Awkward for everyone including other work colleagues. We eventually agreed to be at least polite in the workplace. There's no easy way...try to keep it as professional as possible and don't let it affect your work too much. I won't lie to you...moving on will take a long time, if you see each other everyday. It's not impossible though and you'll come out twice as strong through the whole experience.
nolanola Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 LovelyDaze, I wish I had known someone else was going through that same type of thing. My ex and I worked together a lot right after our breakup and still do occasionally (about once a month). In the period after we broke up, I had to stand there and watch him text his new girlfriend and flirt with other women at work. It was awful. I never knew how he was going to react to me - he would flirt like crazy with me some days and ignore me the next. I went home in tears almost every time we worked together. I wish I had just made it a point to ignore him totally. It's not very adult I guess, but trying to be his friend was brutal. Now when I see him, he usually comes over and talks to me, asking me about my life and so forth. The last time I saw him, he made some comment about how good I looked and then brought up an inside joke from when we were dating. The crappy thing about this is that then he leaves (after getting his ego boost from talking to me) and I don't hear from him at all. Until the next time I see him. He brings up so many feelings that take forever to die back down. Right now, it's been 5 weeks since we've spoken or seen each other. I am back to his work in a week and am dreading running into him. I don't know how to handle it. It's not like we just pass each other in the hall - he will come and stand next to my desk. I'm afraid of asserting myself and saying that I'm busy and don't have time to talk. I don't want to create a scene - there will be a bunch of other people around. Sorry to talk so much about my situation, but as you can see, it's not easy to figure out how to handle it. Good luck to you!
yume Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Hey LSers. I was wondering if anyone has ever had a break up with someone they work with, and tried to do NC... My ex and I have an overlap of about an hour where I am at the front desk and she is in the back. I completely ignore her now and that hour that we work together is extremely awkward, because both of us are there... As much as I'd like to continue the NC, I want to know what happened to any of you where you were around the person you didn't want to talk to or hang out with but you were forced to be around them. Thanks! It's rough, especially if you're still hurting. My ex and I work together and it's been...well, it was worse when we broke up the first time. I was so brokenhearted, and it was horrible having to be around someone when you need to GET OVER them. Needless to say, that didn't work...we ended up getting back together only to break up again after 3 months. As of now....we don't speak...he came up to me and said hi to me a couple weeks ago, full eye contact, I'm not sure why...hasn't really said anything to me since. I said hi to him when I walked in saturday and all he did was nod at me..so...it sucks...I still care for him a lot and miss him, even though it's just...not meant to be between us. Sigh. There isn't much you can do. Limit contact as much as possible; only speak about work...LovelyDaze is right, don't ever date a coworker... lol
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