Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 I just wanted to post this thread to take my feelings out somehow. I am tired of trying to take my feelings out with a friend.....they dont know how i feel..so they cant give me any good advice...maybe you guys will... So maybe some of you had read my posts before and the threads that i have ever posted on loveshack have ben of two guys. My first love/"the first guy", and my second love/ first long term relationship. And these two boys hurt me real bad. And every other guy in between had ben aholess to me and all they have wanted was to try and get me to have sex with them and none wanted to get to know me and take me seriously. I am not a girl who gives it up quick, i am a really nice girl and i am not cocky but i consider myself a very attractive 21 year old, I am a petite hispanic girl . I am a one mans girl, i am funny but i can be a bitch and im a really jealous girl.....is it because of this that guys are mean to me?? what am i doing wrong???OR IS IT THAT I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH?? i have ben feeling very deppressed suddenly, i just feel down and ask myself is there something wrong with me? i try to go out and have fun with friends to distract myself from what i am goin through right now, but it doesnt help maybe i just have very low self esteem due to my ex .....idk..can someone cheer me up?
ADF Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 It is impossible to tell from the information you've given if you're doing anything wrong. But I can say this: if every guy you've ever had a relationship with turned out to be a jerk, the common denomenator is...you. That is not to say it is your fault they are jerks, or that they shouldn't be held responsible for mistreating you. But ask yourself some questions. 1) Do the guys you are drawn to have anything in common? If so, is that thing (or are those things) connected to their bad behavior? 2) Are you meeting these guys in venues where predatory men tend to be found? I am thinking of dance clubs, for example. 3) In dealing with these men, have you learned to spot any signs that they may not be honest about their intentions? What are those signs Also, keep in mind that men your age are often ttrying to prove their manliness to their "boys" (or themselves) in ways that are not consistent with being a good BF. Lotsof guys that age are all about "getting over" on women.
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