nmillar87 Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 I have been seeing a guy for 2 months and at first he was full on - asking me to be his girlfriend introducing me to his family, letting me spend time with his son. He even said he loves me. Then after the weekend he said he wants to slow things down. That I deserve better than him and he wants me in his life in 20 years so he would rather be my friend than have us break up and me end up hating him. But then he said "I'm not full breaking up with you" and he still calls me his girlfriend and we either see each other or speak everyday - and yesterday he was talking about us moving in together. I'm 23 and he is 31 and apart from his babymama I am the only girl he has ever called his girlfriend (he has been a playboy most of his life). I really feel like there is something there and even his best mate said that I should keep trying and that he is just scared. But I'm scared of getting hurt too? Should I give him a break and accept that it will take time for him to adjust to having a girlfriend or should I tell him that slowing things down is no good for me and break it off? Note: I'm 100% sure he isnt using me for sex because he always wants me with him when he has his son or sees his family.
boogieboy Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 It means: I can sense that you REALLY like me, and I while I do find you attractive - I just don't like you as much as you like me. As we get involved I know that you will get even more attached and I most likely won't.
ADF Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 The fact he takes you with him to see his son or his family in no way precludes the possibility that he is using you for sex. If he says he doesn't want a relationship but is still having sex with you AT ALL, it means one thing and one thing only: he's converted you from a GF to a FWB. Most guys prefer FWB to having a GF, because in a FWB, they get all the advantages of having a GF, only with no strings. Many guys will try for a FWB relationship if they can get it, and only settle for having a GF if they can't. In short, he's playing you. This "you're good for me" nonsense is the biggest clue. No man says something like that and means it.
SecretSquirrel Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 He likes having someone around who acts like a girlfriend/mother when it suits his needs, but doesn't want any of the responsibility or accountability that comes with that kind of relationship, so he demoted you to FWB.
cooldudeinberlin Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 hmmm... a few things... he isnt that into you and that is his way of putting you at arm's length, or he is confused and not sure what he really wants - man child syndrome... or he is simply a wussy and cant make up his mind (which either blows your theory about him being a playboy, no matter how desperately he wants you and himself to believe that... yep, heard that tactic before)
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