4givrnt4gtr Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 So i've been eyeing this guy for a couple of months. At first just thought he was cute, then i noticed he also noticed me so i started getting those total high school status butterflies whenever i knew i was gonna see him or whenever we talked. And i seriously mean high school as ive not felt that since i was 15. i knew i had a serious crush but as it had been the case with my previous crushes i thought nothing would come out of it...... til last week. long story short we ended up having dinner one night after work. it was great we got along awesome but the nervous feeling wouldnt die down!!! then this week he asked me to a baseball game. i readily agreed but then regreted it because i was so ridiculously nervous. i hated the feeling and i cursed my lack of ability to not keep my word of not dating anyone this year. i feel im still not ready to date again after a heartbreak back in september and thats why im so nervous and scared. we actually went to the game and had a great time. still even when i was there if i even thought of kissing him my heart skipped a beat and it made me want to run and hide!!! how ridiculous!!! still i didnt want the night to end and i keep hoping he calls me or messages me right away...irrational...i know. still i get impatient and want things to move faster so we can just hang out and have fun w/o the awkwardness!! he seems to like me a lot too which makes it very endearing but again scares the bejesus outta me. im not sure what im scared of but its killing me! it really makes me want to run and forget the whole thing.....yet...he's soooo cute that i dont want to stop. help me figure out a way to stop this madness! i need to calm down so i can enjoy this or im gonna end up running away!!!
skydiveaddict Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 You're way overreacting.. You like him, he likes you, so run with it.. simple as that
aroll32 Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 You're way overreacting.. You like him, he likes you, so run with it.. simple as that Agreed. Why would you want to run from something like this? Only a moron would do something like that. I would kill to have one of my crushes actually turn into something more. Actually one did, but for no longer than a month. Calm down, you should be happy, not nervous. Take things as slow as you need to and have fun. It sounds like you are having a lot of fun (and are pretty infatuated as well) with him so just relax. Things like this don't come around for people often so enjoy it as much as you can.
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted April 1, 2010 Author Posted April 1, 2010 You're way overreacting.. MY POINT EXACTLY!!! I dont know what the heck is wrong with me! Im not this crazy, nervous want to run away mess! Its not like he is the first guy i date, I mean ish! I have seriously never felt such a strong urge to run away and hide while at the same time run TOWARDS him and well....not really do much more cuz the mere thought makes me want to run away again. Oh did i mention im about to leave town in ohhh three months??? and yes, he knows it...clearly doesn't care he's still pursuing...also mentioned a million times how he wants to move to the same city im moving to..... On one hand I really just want to bite the bullet and be aggressive....time is of the essence! I want to call him ask him to join me for any and all things that cross my mind. On the other, I want to just chill and let him do the work.....but i just see each day that passes, and our little childish games continue as precious time wasted..... And then.......I just think, why cant I just chill and enjoy what is? stop being such a control freak???? . Ugh im a hot mess HOT MESS I TELL YOU!!!!!
skydiveaddict Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 life's to short for all those fears I'm tellin ya, go for it
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted April 1, 2010 Author Posted April 1, 2010 Calm down, you should be happy, not nervous. True....but you know what? When Im with him, it kinda feels like im getting into something very similar to what i had with my ex. Actually both of them are very similar personality wise, calm, collected, very sweet and thoughtful though this new guy is a lot less materialistic which is a huge plus (status money etc was the reason my ex and I broke up). In any case, I guess feeling like im going the same way I did last time scares the living daylights out of me. I mean, dont get me wrong, i love being taken cared of, and treated well, and all that. But knowing how despite such good times it can end in so much heartache it really REALLY makes me not want to move forward......i guess thats why im so scared. I REALLY REALLY dont want to be hurt again....
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted April 1, 2010 Author Posted April 1, 2010 life's to short for all those fears I'm tellin ya, go for it So you suggest to throw caution to the wind and go full force????? holy s.!!!!! that gave me serious chills.......but....... OK.......lets suppose I do....do you suggest I get more aggressive??? ask him to do stuff as well? basically....pursue just as much as he does or just wait for him to make all the moves???
skydiveaddict Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 (edited) look, you'll never know unless you roll with it do you really want to spend your life wondering "what if" yea throw caution to the wind and yea , you could ask him to do more stuff, be more aggressive, but I dont think you need to. sounds like you're doing just fine right now Edited April 1, 2010 by skydiveaddict
boogieboy Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 Let him make all the moves. Watch out for red flags so you dont get into the same situation as your ex. Dont deny the butterflies and let it flow. Enjoy it.
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted April 2, 2010 Author Posted April 2, 2010 Ahhhh!!!! GOOOOODD DAAAYYSSS!!!! Its been awhile since Ive felt this good and happy and hopeful!!! AND I also get to see the benefits of going thru the is ive gone thru with the exes..... Cuz, tonight the crush asked me out, we went to have dinner, and we finally got into the subject of relationships. He clearly likes me, but I am able to see through the initial BS (you know the sweet talk, etc) and accept it as part of the game but something to take with a grain of salt. Something i haven't done before which resulted in me falling hard and blindly and then be snapped back into reality in a very harsh and cruel way only to realize that all that sweet talk mean nothing at the end of the day.. AKA...watch the actions, forget the talk. So, while I take the sweet talk and the "oh the guy who gets to be with you will be so lucky" and the "oh you might have seen me nervous cuz I thought you were attractive", I know I still gotta take it very easy and watch like a hawk... Still im loving it...and Im SO glad you guys encourage me to stick with it....and that i didnt make any moves....now just enjoy the process but keep my eyes open. VERY FUN TIMES
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