italyguy Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 Anyone every been in a marriage, where one partner is not sexually attracted to the other? I am married, love my wife more then anything. Find her sexy and attractive and want her all the time. She on the other hand tells me that she loves me with all her heart but doesn't find me attractive, and thus always gives me excuses or avoids having any intimacy. Sad and confused
Married_and_Lonely Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 I think if she really loved you with all her heart, she wouldn't be able to tell you so frankly that she's not attracted to you. I often don't feel a strong, physical attraction to my wife, but because I love her and care about her feelings, I would never tell her that. If you truly love someone and you look closely, I think most can find some level of attraction. I have a coworker who told her husband the same thing, and I think it's because she's trying to convince him to go through with the divorce that she wants. She's trying to discourage him from having hope that they can save their marriage. What are her motives in sharing this with you?
tnttim Posted April 3, 2010 Posted April 3, 2010 yes I was with current wife. The problem is not her, it's you..... It's a myth that women do not like sex, or do not turn into nymphos for the right man. I used to think that it was my wife's fault, but that soon changed. I read a couple of books on seduction and women's persona's, and changed my technique and attitude. Now my wife and I have a very satisfying sex life, very satisfying. Here's a few questions for you Do you get mad when she doesn't want sex? Do you ask her to intiate sex more? Does she get her cookie too? Have you ever turned her down for sex? How's her mood before, during and after sex? Does she take anti depressants?
del88 Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Hi, I am sorry that you are in this situation. It is interesting that she would say that she loves you with all her heart, but that she is not sexually attracted. Did she indicate anything else, like she wants out of the marriage or anything? Why would she say that unless she has some other motive. I would try to get to the bottom of what she means by that.
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