Vintage79 Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 I just got back from a date with some I met online. To begin, she contacted me, I think I asked her out after a few good messages - we struggled to find a time, but eventually figured it out and we both seemed pretty excited about the meeting. The date - I got there 1-2 minutes after her. She immediatley recognized me and gave me a nice smile and big hug. Conversation flowed for 1.5 hours with no breaks, enough laughing, no pull back from minor touching, there seemed to be plenty of connection points, she suggested the second round of drinks, etc. As stated, all I would interpret these items as very positive signs. My mild concern is that I didn't get in all that many questions - she just kind of hogged the conversation and asked me question after question. As such, it was very "me" focused as opposed to "her" focused. That said, I didn't get the impression that she was asking me questions to kill time - my impression was that she was asking the questions because she was genuinely interested. That said, she is more "A" type and extraverted than I'm use to, so it's hard to know what she was thinking. At the end, we said good bye on the street, she offered me another nice big hug, without seeming to look for any kind of kiss. She then closed with an I'll talk to you soon. That said, what should I make of this situation - was it a good date or just mediocre? I'll ask her out again, which will definitely be the tell tale sign, but some impressions might help to appropriately set my expectations. Thoughts or comments would be great.
nmillar87 Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 Hmm... I think you have to see how the next date goes. I'm sure you were both nervous and she might have been trying to get you to do most of the talking. No major red flags as far as I can tell
boogieboy Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 Dont worry about it. Its an average first date. Dont even think about whether it was good or not until you ask her out again and she gives you a yes, or a non yes.
Author Vintage79 Posted April 1, 2010 Author Posted April 1, 2010 My questions were driven more by curiosity than concern. I'll definitely figure out what the status is when I ask her out again. Basically, I'm not use to a girl who's more aggressive on the date, at least in the trying to drive the entire conversation...very "A" type, so I can't really use my typical gauges to asses her interest...which is why I asked.
sullysteve Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 Sounds like a typical first date to me. Nothing spectacular, but nothing catastrophic either. Like the other posters mentioned, ask for date number two!
bac Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 It was as average/uneventful as it could take. Nothing was special or personal. A date from a textbook where everything was done right and nothing is to interpret.
Author Vintage79 Posted April 1, 2010 Author Posted April 1, 2010 Hmmm - average. That's kind of what I guessing. What's the typical conversion to a second date following an "average" first date? Just curious what kind of luck most people have.
bac Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 Hmmm - average. That's kind of what I guessing. What's the typical conversion to a second date following an "average" first date? Just curious what kind of luck most people have. As for an average second date, if your female is mature (around older than 25), emotionally balanced at the moment, has common sense and knows what an average female wants from a male, you will have dinner at a restaurant, or be going out for a movie or some kind of similar fun. Possibly, a pleasant walk after that. The date will end with a kiss or a hug or a smile if it was a good date. A kiss is not indicator of anything but it depends on the rules of a particular female.
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