counterman Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 I know that dress sense is important to some people, but how important is it really? I tend to approach girls that do have some sort of fashion sense. As for myself, I dress fairly well most of the time. There's the odd day where I wouldn't care and just wear anything that is comfortable. Generally, it's a conscious effort. However, I have been told by some girls that it doesn't matter what you wear, it depends on you as a person. Some of my friends just don't give a damn and wear whatever. My cousin who is married now told me that he just doesn't care anymore because he's married and he seriously doesn't care AT ALL. So, when is it important? How important is it? Is it more important for girls or guys? Does it depend on a person's particular taste?
zebracolors Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 It's not a huge deal for me. I only really dress up on occasions where its appropriate to do so. Even then my clothes could probably stand some improvement. I really have always been more used to dressing relaxed, like in jeans. So of course I'm not going to judge a guy who is interested in me, by the kinds of clothes he wears. Id rather him wear what he likes.
USMCHokie Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 So, when is it important? How important is it? Is it more important for girls or guys? Does it depend on a person's particular taste? You should always dress for yourself. Wear what you feel comfortable in. Wear what makes you feel confident in your body. Wear what you feel is an accurate reflection of who you are...because your dress really is a reflection of your personality...and it will definitely affect a person's first impression of you (whether they are aware of it or not). Therefore, the importance of dress sense depends on how much of a priority a person makes it. The reason a lot of people seem to "not care" about their dress sense is because they are still young and unsure of "who they really are" when it comes to dress style. And you often won't develop this until you've settled into a career or perhaps later in life...but definitely not during your formative school and college years, where conformity is the name of the game...it's definitely not a time or place to develop your style. However, I have been told by some girls that it doesn't matter what you wear, it depends on you as a person. This is a load of crap. College-aged women "don't care" because of the above-mentioned conformity attitude of college students...as long as you wear close to what every other douchebag in college wears, you'll be seen as dressing attractively...even though you're not...
Vanessa432 Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Dress is an expression of feelings running inside you. It reveals a lot about you and your emotions. People will take you sincerely if you are in a business attire at a presentation. Just imagine you are attending a presentation, and the presenter is in a three forth and sleeveless T-shirt. Will he be able to get the proper attention for the presentation? My personal opinion says, No he will not !!! Similarly, to make the ambiance nice and professional, Its necessary that there should be at least some limits on the attire you are having. Otherwise there won't be difference between a fashion ramp and professional Presentation hall.
spookie Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 What a guy is wearing is usually representative of the cultural subgroup he identifies with, and on that level, it does factor into my attraction. For example, if he is wearing skinny pants and hipster glasses, I would not be attracted. Same goes for any other style that's an alternative expression, ie "goth", "ghetto".... Other than that, I could not care less what he's wearing.
EasyHeart Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 It depends on the woman, obviously. For some it's very important, for some it's not so much. But as a general rule, I think women care more about fashion sense (their own and their man's) than men do. It's most likely to come out when she first notices you ("Wow, he dresses nice!") and after you've been dating a while and she gets tired of you embarrassing her when you go out together because all you ever wear are jeans and a sweatshirt. All I know is that when I wear a suit or some other stylish outfit, women will look at me and openly stare. When I'm coming home from the gym in jeans and a hoodie, they don't know I'm alive.
lino Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 I like to dress well but I do it for myself, not for women. That's pretty normal in Italian culture anyway
Jersey Shortie Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 It's not important to me. I've seen guys that clearly just got off their blue-collar job and still found them cute. I also like a man in a suit. Some women will be more picky about this then not. If you're a really pretty women it probably doesn't matter what you where, but if you are just a normal girl, dressing nicely sure can help.
Eeyore79 Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 People will say that it isn't about how you dress, it's about who you are as a person, but that's rubbish. How you dress has a major impact on your attractiveness, and as we all know, attractiveness has an impact on whether someone wants to date you! Not only does the way you dress indicate your cultural subgroup and what sort of person you are (which either attracts or repels some people), dressing well also makes you appear to be more attractive; it shows off your best assets and disguises the less attractive ones. When I wear a beautiful dress, it has sort of a halo effect - people look at me and they don't say "the dress is beautiful", they say "SHE is beautiful". An eyecatching outfit draws attention and projects confidence, sort of like a peacock showing off its tail.
phineas Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 Strangely enough, when i'm "DIY mode" on the weekends. Work boots, dirty jeans, t-shirt, hat/dew rag i've noticed women checking me out as I walk by. Maybe it's because I tend to wear tighter clothes when doing work on my house because loose clothing tends to snag on stuff. I stopped over at a female aquaintances house the other day to pick something up in my grunge clothes & I caught her checking me out in the side mirror of my car while I was loading something into my truck. Then she sent me a text quarter to eleven telling me she was all snuggly in bed but couldn't sleep & didn't know why. I know why.
Els Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 It depends on the person entirely. It doesn't matter for me, frankly. I'm so tolerant of a guy's dress sense that the only time I care is when they're wearing a dirty or sweaty shirt that has been reused dozens of times without washing.
Mimolicious Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 I know that dress sense is important to some people, but how important is it really? I tend to approach girls that do have some sort of fashion sense. As for myself, I dress fairly well most of the time. There's the odd day where I wouldn't care and just wear anything that is comfortable. Generally, it's a conscious effort. However, I have been told by some girls that it doesn't matter what you wear, it depends on you as a person. Some of my friends just don't give a damn and wear whatever. My cousin who is married now told me that he just doesn't care anymore because he's married and he seriously doesn't care AT ALL. So, when is it important? How important is it? Is it more important for girls or guys? Does it depend on a person's particular taste? Soon enough, your cousin will be posting on the infidelity forum at LS. To let yourself go is not cool! It's actually lack of self-esteem too. Well, the way you present yourself (physically) goes a long with your attitude, values, morality, etc... TO look like a slob is never attractive. A little grooming up and dressing spiffy never hurt nobody. Looks is one thing. You may not be CK model attractive when it comes of physical features but you sure can dress up like one. There is never a second chance for a first impression. If I meet a man that doesn't care about the way that he dresses and doesn't take care of himself chances are we wont be going past the introduction. He is showing me that he has litte love for himself. Now, let's not be extreme. If he has a hard hat, muddy boots and soiled jeans... that is a different story. Don't show up to a date looking like trash.
phineas Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 The women at work seem to get all worked up by the dude's in wife beaters & cargo pants doing the landscaping outside the window. 'course their all in good shape & for some odd reason the guy spraying mulch out of a giant tube was wearing hair gel.
Mr White Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 Things nowdays are pretty bad as far as dressing is concerned . As long as you wear clothes that actually fit (not oversized garbage) you are already way ahead of the curve. I really miss the days when men wouldn't leave the house without a tie and hat on, and the women dressed like presents. I haven't actually lived them, but I bet the public spaces were way more polite and aesthetically pleasing.
Knittress Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 The clothes you wear reflects the image of yourself that you choose to project into the outside world - I'd say that's pretty important.
Twenty-ten Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 It's very important for me, call me shallow, but I take great pride in how I look I expect the same from my partner. That's not to say I wouldn't date a "fixer-upper" in this respect, I would, but part of that initial chemistry that happens for me when I first meet a guy is also in the way he dresses and carries himself.
D-Lish Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Style sense is relatively important to me. A part of a person's attractiveness comes from how they package themselves. Fashion is my job, so I do appreciate men that know how to dress. I find guys in their 30's+ dress like old men- they start wearing golf shirts and tucking them in to their pants, pulling their pants up to high on the waist. Men and women age themselves by dressing the wrong way. Would it turn me off if I saw a cute guy with bad style? A little, yes. I'd at least like him to have a little bit of style, something I can work with:D
yah Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 I put more effort into my wardrobe than my bf. I'm a girl tho so that isn't surprising. I enjoy shopping and dressing up on occasion. I do wish my bf dressed better sometimes but hey, there are more important things in life than clothes...
Ruby Slippers Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Honestly, anyone who puts a ton of effort into their look turns me off. I assume they are compensating for a lack of internal qualities. I am most intrigued by a guy in simple, well-fitting clothes that do not detract from nor mask his general physique. But I'm a little unusual.
BobSacamento Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Honestly, anyone who puts a ton of effort into their look turns me off. I assume they are compensating for a lack of internal qualities. I am most intrigued by a guy in simple, well-fitting clothes that do not detract from nor mask his general physique. But I'm a little unusual. Guys in well-fitting clothes....I don't think you realize how rare something simple like that actually is. Guys will go YEARS without purchasing new clothes. They will just make it work.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Guys in well-fitting clothes....I don't think you realize how rare something simple like that actually is. Guys will go YEARS without purchasing new clothes. They will just make it work. Oh, I do. Probably 10% or less of the men I see dress in a way I find appealing. But I don't care that much, so it's not a big deal. My main point was that if a guy is too gussied up, it's a turn-off for me. Same with women. In my experience, the women who put the most effort into their clothes, accessories, blah blah, are the most boring and cold.
Twenty-ten Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 I find guys in their 30's+ dress like old men- they start wearing golf shirts and tucking them in to their pants, pulling their pants up to high on the waist. Men and women age themselves by dressing the wrong way. Spoken for truth! Can we add "dad jeans" to that as well? We all know what my take is on that, I think that is one of the threads I started on here hehehehe.
Author counterman Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 Must there be a compatibility in dress sense? I mean, my ex-girlfriend use to dress better than me. After we broke up, I updated a bit more and I would say I dress fairly well. I might be called shallow for this but girls that have shown interest in me had lost points for not dressing well. They may have been cute but what they wore detracted from their attractiveness. Also, how about dressing uniquely, like apart from all the trends?
Mimolicious Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Spoken for truth! Can we add "dad jeans" to that as well? We all know what my take is on that, I think that is one of the threads I started on here hehehehe. NO can we add Skinny Jeans???????? Why are guys wearing these? I live in NYC and I see it all. Ruby Slippers- I wouldn't say I put TONS of time into the way I look, but I take pride on the way I look. Nothing internal missing here on the contrary, my external beauty expresses how happy and beautiful I feel on the inside.
Lakeside_runner Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 I really miss the days when men wouldn't leave the house without a tie and hat on, and the women dressed like presents. I haven't actually lived them, but I bet the public spaces were way more polite and aesthetically pleasing. Oh yeah, especially the gutters of the Old London Town were really aesthetically pleasing... :lmao:
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