jmo28 Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 Still trying the Match thing. Met this girl on there I'm really interested in. We went on a first date last tues and i honestly have never had a more effortless date. We gave each other crap, joked around, made each other laugh. End of date, she says "i'd really like to do this again" and also twice during the date, in the middle and end, she asks if i'll invite her to this cocktail party i'm planning on throwing at my apartment in the next month or so where i'll play the piano for friends. She also seemed down to earth (ie at the end of the date, she says, if you throw the party before we see each other again, will you invite me). I was going to New Orleans on a mini vacation this past Thurs-Mon, which she knew about. So we talked about connecting when I got back. I texted her the day after the date simply saying I enjoyed meeting her and would call her when I'm back in town. She texted right back saying she also had a nice time and "talk soon". I called her mon night leaving a simple message saying I'm back from my trip and hope she had a good week; give me a call when you get a chance. I should note we are both Jewish although I did not think she was religious and it was the first 2 nights of Passover Mon and Tues. Anyway, I have not heard from her. Normally I'd drop it and move on, but I am just really surprised. I can't remember a time when the girl mentioned meeting up again so assumed she was really interested. For now I'm writing this off as a delay because of the holiday but a friend suggested messaging her again just asking how her holiday went maybe Thurs night. What do y'all think of this? I usually don't like to follow up a second time because my attitude is if you're interested, you find a way to get in touch with someone. But I've also been told some girls don't like to pick up the phone to call the guy very early on (though she has called me back once before). One other thing, she has not logged into match for at least 3 days since before I called so entirely possible its holiday-related, but I just thought I would have gotten at least a text message by now.
nmillar87 Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 You're not in stalker territory yet - I'd call instead of texting
boogieboy Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 But I've also been told some girls don't like to pick up the phone to call the guy very early on (though she has called me back once before). Voice mail is very reliable nowadays. DOnt believe this crap about when girls like to pick up the phone. When they like you, they get in contact with you. SHe probably met someone else, dont bother calling her.
cooldudeinberlin Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 dude... 1.) relax... you are going to blow it with this on edge neediness... no reason to be desperate... be patient...hell, id give it 3 or 4 days... you are a busy man, have friends, have a whole life going on... do so. 2.) I agree with poster above... stop this texting thing and dial the phone... the sound of a voice can be so scintillating... it will throw her back in the moment of the last time she heard it (the date)... it will make her smile and remind her of all the playful teasing... now I ask you... do you really want to give that kind of emotional reaction to her (its rhetorical, I know... you are probably dialing now) good luck... sounds like you are lucky to find such a cool chick that you can be relaxed and comfortable around... rare.
Author jmo28 Posted April 1, 2010 Author Posted April 1, 2010 yeah I've basically decided to sit back and relax; I noticed many people are away this week and she hasn't logged into the site since before I called and left the vm on Mon. No i didn't look at her profile to figure that out...she came up in a search list; i wasn't even intending to look it up. I'm still a little surprised but I've got plenty else in my life going on to keep me busy. We'll see.....
Author jmo28 Posted April 2, 2010 Author Posted April 2, 2010 She called. Was very sweet but yet still giving each other crap! She wants me to meet her at a the tail end of an afternoon birthday party she's going to be at with friends. Hoping I don't meet too many friends as its way too early for that so I'll try to show up as late as possible. Turns out it was the Jewish holiday. I could tell she wasn't bs-ing. Didn't log into the website until today. Amazing these stories about what happened get into our head that we make up and drive us nuts when its just that...a story! I'm excited!
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