muse08 Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 I'll try to be as brief as possible. So, my guy are about to move in together. I was staying at another place where I had a male roommate and he hated that. So he's been begging and complaining since I've been there, for me to move in with him. so he left his other place and is now getting another place so that I will move in. We've had issues with him being controlling and obsessive and calling me all day while i'm at work and complaining about me not calling him enough. For the past week, he has initiated us going out but canceling at the last minute b/c of working late and i have been on the phone with him throughout him working late and all, but my frustration comes when he acts like I'm crazy for bringing up the fact that it's not cool with me. He's been moving from his apartment today while i worked. We havent seen each other in 2 days:o. He does work two jobs and does keep his word much of the time and has done a lot for me and with me. However, his jobs require him to work past his scheduled time to get get off and that's the nature of his job. when we first met it seemed to not be as big of an issue, but now he has started blocking my time only to cancel ...He messes up my time. Am I making this more than what it is or what? I'm feeling really strange about things lately and I almost dont know what to do. It's getting to the point where we have had conversations about this for like every other day for the past 7days or so. I'm tired of it and he acts like he doesn't get it.THAT...makes me just want to leave him. Do I throw in the towel or what do I do? How do I talk to him when he acts like he doesn't get it.
Ilovecake Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Well one thing I can say is that you are making a very big commitment and if you are not OK with the person he is you should not move in with him hoping that he will change. If I were you I would think long and hard about this moving in stuff. The number one mistake that people make in relationships is to try and change the other person. I mean these are his jobs it's not like he's blowing you off to go hang out with his buddies. Men take their work very seriously, they get a lot of their identity from what they do for a living. If you guys are already both going into this relationship bitching and nagging it will only get worse once you're together all of the time.
alphamale Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 when you move in together you'll see each other all the time, maybe even too much for your likeing
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