GF of 3 years broke up with me last week. Hard getting out of bed.

[ohlife]

I'll try to make this as short as possible. I'm sorry if it's long...This forum seems like a good place to let things out...

 

I have been off and on with my ex for the past 3+ years. She broke up with me last week.

 

During the 3 years, I had asked for a break because of doubts I was having about the relationship.

 

But since December, we had been together and happy (or so I thought). In February, she went out with her work friends (which include a guy that likes her whom, while we were on a break, she made out with) even though I really didn't want her to. It just bothers me when she sees that guy (we'll call him Jack).

 

That night with her coworkers, she called me at 4:00 AM completely wasted, hysterically crying asking me to pick her up. I complied. Picked her up and thought she was OD'ing, she was that drunk. Couldn't stand straight, scared me. Put her in the car and took her to my place and took care of her. Found out the next day when I asked her, that she had kissed this girl friend of hers, and another guy she works with (not Jack) had kissed her, but apparently she didnt kiss him back and pushed him off right away (since we were together). Dont know if I believe her though. She defended herself by saying she doesn't even really remember doing it, so it's not considered cheating. I said it was considered cheating but that I'd forgive her.

 

Anyways, fast forward to last week, and she said we should stop seeing each other. She's going to Europe for a year to work in June and said this way it would be easier. She said it breaks her heart because she has seen us together in the future, she thinks 'I'm the one'.

 

I'm having a very hard time getting over her. I wana call her. I wana talk to her. I wana hold her in my arms again. Every time I start thinking about her, I keep thinking about all the guys she's gona meet and probably hook up with in Europe, and it absolutely kills me. I also think she's always hanging out with Jack, but she denies it. Anyways, she's free to do whatever she wants, but it's breaking me. I'm so scared of what's gona happen to us when she comes back from Europe. She said she wants me in her future, but so much can change in a year.

 

What do I do?

[aussieguy]

To me she sounds like trouble, if i was you id let go of her and focus on the future with someone else. She doesnt sound like someone worth waiting 12 months for.

[GrayClouds]

She moving on and having hard time finding the courage to say so in a dignified manner. She is putting herself in situation so you will do the break-up. She does not want to be the bad guy,

 

Let her go, try to focus on healing and making yourself strong. There is someone better out there for you who will not play games with your heart

 

Sorry about your lost. Be kind to yourself and take care.

[learned2 love 2late]

join the club,

 

youll get another hotter girl, honestly, u got this one 3 years ago, ul get another one,

 

she cheated they always do.