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Going on a date to her house, bring flowers or no?


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I have been dating this girl. Tonight is our 8th date. We have made out few times and kissed but haven't taken things any further. She does not like Public affection, not even touching hands or putting your arm around her let alone kissing. So we have to kiss when we are at her place etc.

 

Last two dates were hiking and going out to movies. I asked her out for tonight and she asked, what do you want to do? I said, since it si raining outside, we can watch a movie at your place and talk. She said ok.

 

I said this since she does not like PDA, I can advance further with her at her place.

 

Now should I bring flowers? Tiramisu cake? or something else? or just show up?

 

I do not want to look cheap and I do not want to look desperate.

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Bringing anything looks desperate. You are telling her that you are desperate to please her and she will feel like you feel she will owe you something. She hasnt earned her flowers yet.

 

just so you know, a women who has kissed you in private and wont go near you in public is a red flag. Dont even think of buying her anything until you are sure she is really into you.

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She paid for 3 dates and I have paid for three dates. On one of the date she invited her friends (husband and wife) and I met them for the first time. She paid $60 for the dinner for four since she said they always do stuff for her and she wanted to pay.

 

I took her on a hiking date and bought bunch of stuff such as cheese, grapes, strawberries, chocolate and made sandwiches.

 

Now not sure whether I should bring something or not, If yes, then what?

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Any help guys .... or just bring some ice cream?

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Since you're watching a movie at her place, I think it would be very classy of you to bring a snack. Doesn't haven't to be anything fancy, just bring some popcorn or candy or something. Don't bring flowers or a fancy dessert.

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Bringing anything looks desperate.

I agree with that. Since you haven't slept with her yet, bringing flowers would seem like a desperate attempt to nudge her in that direction. The general rule is that your only buy flowers on her birthday, valentine's day or some other special occasion.

 

If you want to bring something, get a bottle of wine.

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