bananaboat11 Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 This post may seem illogical... incoherent... composed of ellipses... Well too bad. Dumpee, take comfort in knowing they'll never forget you. Every person is unique... distinct from the next. You bring something to a relationship the next in your dumper's life may not. For that, you'll always be on their mind - whether they want you back or not. If your ex is 'right' in the head, they're human. Human psyche dictates a distinct attraction chemically and emotionally that will never let them fully release you from their hearts... as much as they hate you. They'll never be indifferent unless you were a TOTAL **** lover, friend, etc... I take my recent breakup of over I don't know how many months ago. I honestly thought she was over me 100% and moved on. I thought she'd never contact me... and she may never still. But regardless of my over-analysis of my situation b/c I'm a caring guy... can be emotional at times... I've unfortunately taken notice that she's been blocking me and unblocking me on facebook. Clearly, facebook is stupid as ****... but for someone who despised my very existence at the end of our relationship and told me I meant nothing to her after 5 months of telling everyone she was falling in love with me... I was ONLY good for the awesome sex we had... sex, sex, sex... I was her comfort... this unfortunate notice I took in her 'games'... lets me know I'm still on her mind. Whether she misses me... or is trying to forget me... she can't. At the time we were together.. I was unique... distinct from her past relationships and I'm sure from her current. ...and thus... as CRAZY and messed up as she is... from a broken home... all of which I was supportive and accepting of and trying to be her best friend and good boyfriend... she was manipulative and abusive verbally... I put my foot down. She dumped me over facebook and ran away... ...I'm still on her mind. BUT... I can't torture myself anymore... I blocked her on facebook and hope to never hear from her ever again. Moving forward is the best option we dumpees have. I've written MANY, MANY posts on being a dumpee... and no contact and other things... but just remember... the ONLY way we will take them back... ...is if THEY do EVERYTHING we WANT to do to get them back, for us... to us... ...I want her begging at my feet if I'm going to even humor the thought of looking in her eyes again and saying "I miss you"... Will it happen in my case? No. Yours? Maybe. But you need to be STRONG! /VENT/RANT
Rearden Metal Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 You're right, in a lot of ways. But I'm not sure I take any solace in that knowledge. My recent ex mirrors yours in a lot of ways. Manipulative, verbally abusive. From a damaged home etc... 3 weeks ago she said to me that she was happy w a new guy (to hurt me), told me I ruined her life enough and not to talk to her friends (my friends too), threatened a restraining order and called me names. I blocked her on AIM and FB and started posting on here at a record pace. This AM I get an email - one line- Crumbs. But it's because I'm in her head, too. And obviously because she is a manipulative, vampiric whore, obviously.
ingridh Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Not if your dumper had fallen in love with someone much younger and prettier and is now living happily ever after with her. Yes, my ex has definitely forgotten all about me :sigh:
nobmagnet Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 this may sound shocking but i have 4 exes. (i am 40) i do think about them but not in a good way. When summot is said/done it gives me a vision of each of them in a negative way. I had great sex with one of them.................but he beat me. I had good fun with one...............but he cheated I was sucked in with one...............he verbally abused me i was in love with one...............he was a flasher. (exposed himself) they are not in order of time. So yes indeed i will never forget them. But i cant help but see their failings. Dont worry i have looked at me. I aint perfect. but i am giving the male race a break!! hahah Nobby xx (opened myself up for a bashing) xx
bluz73 Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Not if your dumper had fallen in love with someone much younger and prettier and is now living happily ever after with her. Yes, my ex has definitely forgotten all about me :sigh: Sorta the same thing happened to me he found someone younger (13 years) he is 31 she is 18(gag) BUT definately not prettier..And knowing that has helped me so much. His attraction for me was breathe taking and I loved it and to see him with the polar opposite makes me think he is just settleing..I know he hasnt contacted me in 5 months well except for an email telling me to not try and talk to his new GF signed off SINCERELY?? you got to be kidding me Sincerely wtf? Anyway he told me at the end that he will always compare other girls to me cause I was far superior than anyone he has ever met..(then wtf did you let me go for? hmmm maybe intimadated cause i got my life together and your still a bum??) Anyway Your ex thinks of you and so does mine..We live 1 mile apart and have shared everything in this town so anywhere he goes with her is gonna be a reminder...Just remember YOU and I both deserve honesty and love and if not no man is worth our time ))
bluz73 Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 who gives a **** what they think? I feel the same thing now after 5 months but in the beginning stages I was always wondering what he thought of me..NOW i dont care if he hates me calls me physco like ex's normally do or if he is really miserable with her and wishes he hadnt made the choice he made but ITS TOO LATE ITS OVER FOREVER AND this woman isnt standing for nothing but a good man that loves me and cares for me and right now I like being just me and finding what I like
EricaH329 Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Rob...why are we still talking about this...? I was wondering the same thing.
lost_one_01 Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Sounds like my ex..broken home..."daddy" issues...divorced etc. Worse part this is not some teenager...but a 46 year old. It was a rocky LDR to say the least. Few times when we broke it off I would contact her or she would contact me. Well it ended again...I was everything from mean to selfish hates me blah blah. Even after this she kept my numbers etc even though she said she would delete them. Same as all of you I was supportive..loved her with all my heart..and did not care about her past. She knew what she had..but she has to many issues and I think more than a little crazy..plus she does not want to change her life. Do I love her even after what she did...yes. Do I want her back...no. She sucked life out of me and I have no more to give. Be quite honest I rather have her forget me...and does not matter now if she thinks of me or not.
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