bradsta2020 Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Ive been dating this girl for about 3 weeks now. Recently she has been barely talking to me and blowing me off to hang out. I dont know why or how this happened, so i told her i want to call her and talk about it. She said she could not talk the day i told her that, so she said she'll call me tomorrow. She never called. Im just so confused. oh ya and she said she has been having drama with her sister thats why she has been blowing me off. I just dont know what to do..any suggestions would help a lot
aroll32 Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 was in the same situation a couple months ago. All I can say is to go with it. If she backs off, let her, because chasing isn't going to get you anywhere other than getting more hurt. When the girl I was dating backed off, I confronted her, she told me a couple lies, then we parted ways. I was extremely upset and confused about it. Don't make my mistake. Just let it go. If you do, it makes it look like you don't care anymore, then she will be the one asking the questions. It sucks yes, but keep yourself occupied with other things. Try not to let her consume your thoughts, if you can do this (which will probably be rather difficult) then you will have won the battle. At least that's how I see it, hope this helps
Author bradsta2020 Posted March 31, 2010 Author Posted March 31, 2010 Ya I see what you mean. That is what ive been TRYING to do.. It is really hard though, but ill stick with and see what happens.. thanks a lot for the advice!
adamt Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 people can change their minds, get cold feet or there could be someone else in the picture. i've been there recently where she looked well up for a 2nd date but then trying to organise a date seemed impossible as she kept being busy. hard to understand why people say one thing but mean the opposite. generally i give them 2 chances then look to move on. my opinion is if they really wanted to go out again then they would offer alternative dates after the other person has taken the initiative first
OndaChin Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Hey Bro... I hear your INNER MAN on this- "Its called the GUT". You said she's "Blowin You Off" and you're RIGHT ON THE MONEY. Most likely, the ONLY DRAMA she's got is which guy does she want to bang in her "Man-Stable". Chances are it's not you! I know it hurts.. I've been the "TOOL" before, as well. (Played) Believe your instincts that she is NOT INTERESTED and just stop contacting her. If anything... let her call you (If she does).
boogieboy Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Yep, she found another guy. Or she went back to her ex. Dont let her keep you on hold.
aroll32 Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 Yep, she found another guy. Or she went back to her ex. Dont let her keep you on hold. Although I don't want to agree, it's very true. She might have found someone that is "new" and more "interesting" because you have already gone out with her a couple times and she sees what you are like. In my situation that was similar, the girl didn't seem as though she might have been interested in someone else. But to my surprise, one of her friends (mutual) had talked to her and told me that she's more interested in me but also somewhat interested in someone else and doesn't know what to do. So yeah thanks for stringing me along, adios! You should probably do the same before it gets worse. As for the ex, also possible, I hate it when girls do that. I literally want to punch them in the stomach. It's like, why did you break up in the first place? Unless it was the guy who did the breaking up. Then I see how it's possible. And yeah, don't let her string you along. If she calls or something, try not answering. And DON'T call back. Try not making contact for a week or so. See how things play out.
bucky112 Posted April 1, 2010 Posted April 1, 2010 I had the exact same situation not long ago, dated a girl for around 3 weeks then she started to get distant, in my situation she still wasnt over her ex although she refused to accept this, like the other poster said the sad truth is she isnt over her ex or has found someone else to play with! dont make my mistake and stay attached hoping you can make it work, raise the issue with her and if needed ended right there or you'll end up getting even more screwed over,feel your pain man
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