easyluckyfree5 Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Hi all, I'm 23. I have a problem where I'll be dating a girl and I'll get into a "mood" where i just don't want her around anymore and I'll dump her. Then the next morning i'll wake up and be like "ooo, that wasn't a good idea! I really liked her!" Then i'll try to get back with them... which works sometimes... My most recent girlfriends we dated for a year and 3 months. I broke up with her 3 times over the course of a year and she was nice enough to let me back with her. Then, i recently did it again and she's to the point where she can't trust me anymore and won't return. I realize her response as being what most people would do, that isn't the purpose of this thread. The purpose is to find out if anyone else has met anyone with the same problem. It'll basically be one small thing that the girl will do that will sort of tip me in the wrong direction, and i'll start obsessing over it until i can't stand to be around her, where i'll probably end up dumping the girl within a day or so. Then after i get out of my little "mood" thing i got in, i realize "hey, that was completely trivial, why did you break up with her for that?" This has been the sole reason i've never had a good relationship and i figure it's about time i finally start asking around for help. I don't know what else to do, but if i can't find a way to fix this problem i'm never going to have a lasting relationship. Thanks to anyone that reads and comments.
JustLooking123 Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Don't dump her at the first urge to do so. Wait at least a week to see if the urge to dump her continues, or if it's just a minor, passing annoyance (which occurs in every relationship).
Author easyluckyfree5 Posted March 31, 2010 Author Posted March 31, 2010 See, that's what any normal person would do. But when i get feeling like this, all i can think about is being single again and how much better life would be without her and i just want her gone THEN. Any normal person would talk it out with the girl, or wait till the feeling goes away, but i feel like i have to do it then. Plus sometimes if i try and wait it out, the urge gets stronger to break up. Then once again, as soon as i do it, it's like something snaps in my head and completely changes my thought process. errghh very frustrating.
CLC2008 Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Hi all, I'm 23. I have a problem where I'll be dating a girl and I'll get into a "mood" where i just don't want her around anymore and I'll dump her. Then the next morning i'll wake up and be like "ooo, that wasn't a good idea! I really liked her!" Then i'll try to get back with them... which works sometimes... My most recent girlfriends we dated for a year and 3 months. I broke up with her 3 times over the course of a year and she was nice enough to let me back with her. Then, i recently did it again and she's to the point where she can't trust me anymore and won't return. I realize her response as being what most people would do, that isn't the purpose of this thread. The purpose is to find out if anyone else has met anyone with the same problem. It'll basically be one small thing that the girl will do that will sort of tip me in the wrong direction, and i'll start obsessing over it until i can't stand to be around her, where i'll probably end up dumping the girl within a day or so. Then after i get out of my little "mood" thing i got in, i realize "hey, that was completely trivial, why did you break up with her for that?" This has been the sole reason i've never had a good relationship and i figure it's about time i finally start asking around for help. I don't know what else to do, but if i can't find a way to fix this problem i'm never going to have a lasting relationship. Thanks to anyone that reads and comments. It could be that you just like the adrenaline rush.
troggleputty Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Why do you have to dump a girl just because you don't feel like hanging out with her for a while?
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