phineas Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 No, when it comes to things like picking up after himself and turning lights/tvs off when he leaves a room he is terrible. I'm the exact opposite. I'll let dishes pile up in my sink for a few days, but if I go to someone elses house for dinner (date or otherwise) I'll usually help clean up & wash the dishes. My momma raised me good. Just not that good cause I slack on my own cleaning. Though, when I have a woman visiting I tend to get a little anal about the cleaning.
Silver_star Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 If you like things neat and tidy and just so but dont want to be a so called "nag" then i guess the only solutions are either clean up after him...or dont have him over. But in the gran scheme of things if this relationship progresses and you move in together..what then? I hope you like housework..or maybe he will have more respect for the cleanliness of the household if he has to live in it too.
Author WhenIrishEyesSmile Posted March 31, 2010 Author Posted March 31, 2010 If you like things neat and tidy and just so but dont want to be a so called "nag" then i guess the only solutions are either clean up after him...or dont have him over. But in the gran scheme of things if this relationship progresses and you move in together..what then? I hope you like housework..or maybe he will have more respect for the cleanliness of the household if he has to live in it too. It's not that I want things to be "neat and tidy and just so"; I don't want garbage and rotting food lying around random places in my house, nor do I want to be wasting electricity and money by having 2 or 3 tvs on in 2 or 3 different rooms that no one is in or will be in. These are the exact same expectations he has at his house, for both me and himself. That's the issue. The problem is not that he is a slob no matter where he is, and I am a neat-freak. The problem is that he either doesn't respect my space, or possibly he has some weird mommy's boy thing going on where if he's not at his home he expects everyone else to clean up/take care of him. I remember once when we rented a house for a vacation with some other friends of ours, and there was no issue about who's turn it was to cook or clean, it just naturally worked out fine, with everyone doing something, or his or her part....except that I got embarrassed and other people got annoyed at my BF, because he didn't do a damned thing until forced to. Hurm.
Els Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 OP, I honestly think he's just selfish. The kind of person that'd be anal about the condition of their own items, but couldn't give a damn when they borrow someone else's.
threebyfate Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 I agree that your b/f is selfish. As well, was he testing for domestic help? Did he bounce a dime on the bedsheets? Do you have to rise and salute, when he enters the room? Don't nag. The next time he leaves garbage laying around, take him by the scruff of his neck and push his nose firmly into the garbage, saying "No" sternly. If necessary, use a rolled up newspaper and tap him on the nose.
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