ShldIstayOrShldIgo Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 my 4 year relationship with my now ex was getting pretty bad these last couple months. neither of us really talked about it. we just kind of dealt with it. well... she ended up telling me that we should just be friends about a week ago. then, a week after that, she told me that shes interested in someone else. shes really confused about what to do. she wants to see this new guy but she wants me in her life too. 2 days ago i told her that the only way i can give her space is if we stop talking to eachother. well that only lasted 2 days. i saw her today and things were good. she missed me as much as i missed her. i really want to win her back (i havent lost her completely) and patch up our relationship. we talked out our problems and agreed that things werent the greatest the last couple of months. she said that when she kissed him she just couldnt kiss him the same way and that it didnt feel right. we were kissing and everything today, but she told me that shes going to see this other guy sometime this week. i really think that i have a shot at winning her back if we continue to see eachother, but i dont know what to do. in my opinion, if i dont win her back then at least i gave it my best shot. should i stick around, or should i give her space and go no contact? i need some help, answers, opinions, any advice you can offer me. thanks!
Author ShldIstayOrShldIgo Posted March 30, 2010 Author Posted March 30, 2010 (edited) i almost forgot to mention that i put her through this same situation 2 years ago and she stuck around for me and it ended up working out up till now. also, when we were in no contact she said that a part of her wanted to tell this guy this guy that she couldnt see him any more and come back to me, but a part of her wanted to stay with him and see where things went. Edited March 30, 2010 by ShldIstayOrShldIgo
LovelyDaze Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 Go. You and the other guy have been relegated to #1 and #2...interchangeably. I'll make a mild prediction. If you stick around and profess your love for her and things, she will still decide to go to the other guy eventually. Why? Probably because he WON'T fight as hard and it's in a lot of people's nature to want to chase what they don't have. You want to know how serious she is about you? Leave and go NC. That would give you the time to evaluate what you are willing to tolerate in a relationship and also it will show her true colors.
GrayClouds Posted March 31, 2010 Posted March 31, 2010 Go. You and the other guy have been relegated to #1 and #2...interchangeably. I'll make a mild prediction. If you stick around and profess your love for her and things, she will still decide to go to the other guy eventually. Why? Probably because he WON'T fight as hard and it's in a lot of people's nature to want to chase what they don't have. You want to know how serious she is about you? Leave and go NC. That would give you the time to evaluate what you are willing to tolerate in a relationship and also it will show her true colors. Or as the old saying goes "the dog only chases the rabbit that moves" Do as Lady Daze says.
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